Received: from evaki.its.uow.edu.au ([130.130.68.32]) by anubis.ad.uow.edu.au with Microsoft SMTPSVC(6.0.3790.3959); Sun, 20 Apr 2008 08:56:50 +1000 Received: from febris-nat.its.uow.edu.au ([130.130.68.210] helo=febris.its.uow.edu.au) by evaki.its.uow.edu.au with esmtp (Exim 4.69) (envelope-from ) id 1JnLzG-0000ta-Gh for blane@uow.edu.au; Sun, 20 Apr 2008 08:56:50 +1000 Received: from c3.confirmedcc.com (c3.confirmedcc.com [64.95.77.164]) by febris.its.uow.edu.au (MOS 3.8.5-GA) with ESMTP id JWO23390; Sun, 20 Apr 2008 08:56:45 +1000 (EST) Received: from p1-ws008 (unknown [10.250.0.101]) by c3.confirmedcc.com (Postfix) with ESMTP id 231B198CA3 for ; Sat, 19 Apr 2008 22:56:44 +0000 (UTC) Message-ID: <1102057086747.1101938345415.1211.8.105185502@scheduler> Date: Sat, 19 Apr 2008 18:56:44 -0400 (EDT) From: Fatherhood Foundation Reply-To: info@fathersonline.org To: blane@uow.edu.au Subject: Work, Life, Balance Mime-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: multipart/alternative; boundary="----=_Part_25793832_2136346726.1208645804003" X-Mailer: Roving Constant Contact 0 (http://www.constantcontact.com) List-Unsubscribe: http://visitor.constantcontact.com/d.jsp?p=un&v=001jm8CFGIzLJHYg-gJRLc-3d90mBLDU8ykgMbU-CSFDW6QMEo_OJCF1Q== X-Return-Path-Hint: ESC1102057086747_1101938345415_1211@in.confirmedcc.com X-Roving-ID: 1101938345415.1211 X-Lumos-SenderID: 1101938345415 X-Roving-CampaignId: 1102057086747 X-Roving-StreamId: 0 X-Junkmail-Status: score=10/49, host=febris.its.uow.edu.au X-Junkmail-SD-Raw: score=unknown, refid=str=0001.0A09020B.480A78B1.013C,ss=1,fgs=0, ip=64.95.77.164, so=2007-07-31 18:51:00, dmn=5.4.3/2008-02-01 Return-Path: ESC1102057086747_1101938345415_1211@in.confirmedcc.com X-OriginalArrivalTime: 19 Apr 2008 22:56:50.0115 (UTC) FILETIME=[A6F4B130:01C8A270] ------=_Part_25793832_2136346726.1208645804003 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-8859-1 Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 21st April 2008 Inspiring Fathers Encouraging Families Issue 296 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Work, Family Balance Beating Workaholism ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Dear Brian, Welcome to the Fatherhood Foundation newsletter and email information service for the fathers and families as we think about the balance needed between work and family life. In This Issue Frontline...Are you a workaholic Laughter..Missing the moment Grandfathers...Work to Live All You Need is Love..Mind Reading Single Dads...Bad Numbers Special Feature...Workaholics Checklist News & Info..Attack on Parents Dad's Prayer..Work & Rest ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Next Week The Battle for the True Man ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ [http://visitor.constantcontact.com/email.jsp?m=1101938345415] Join our Mailing List! 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The three laws of work/family balance are priorities, priorities, priorities. Warwick Marsh ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Frontline I knew that writing about work/family balance would be difficult especially as I am a hypocrite on this subject. I have just done the 'how do you know if you are a workaholic' quiz at www.workaholics-anonymous.org [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_suun__FCSk8cgHQ5noA-u6Y64B_KtMk8VLAEK7gKwhrkY7mo1MxpAMHodnNMnIH2v2mbP-KwJvNCG_sEoA7EXXMeLhf-pCrgdeWKSrpuZXpogzbLETK7QzfLH_oW4z6XCf-vAmkiUnWA==] There are 20 questions and at the end it says, "If you answered 'yes' to 3 or more questions there is a chance you are a workaholic or well on your way to becoming one." I answered 'yes' to 13 questions of the 20 and I am thinking of signing myself into a workaholics rehab very soon. I have always suspected that I am a workaholic. Now I know the truth. 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Journalist Myles Wearring, News.com.au in his article called 'Beating Workaholism' [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_t5uZkHjJ1dYK4yEzF9Hq00zJ0RTxN0Hk4_GATGQQ34lvZ01tnx4tlI0MWtpzGocsqVQ1yT4m8cZkqydcpNFMflTJ9Hz6vYDM35MVlIOCOmMfRwRrw9dSmB45SPTnlwVWMS9WfqeL6nddRI4xyzioDDdaGTrYMLsbxMj56kCND8LqD547TWnE0B] said, "Australia is a nation of workaholics, with the 2006 census finding 37% of the workforce do overtime, and for half of those who do it, the overtime is unpaid." Dr John Gullotta, a GP and chair of the Australian Medical Association Public Health Committee, said, "The dangers of workaholism should not be underestimated. I am seeing a lot of patients who had turned to alcohol, drugs or smoking due to overwork. All those things can lead to heart disease and increased blood pressure." The average hours worked by full time employees in Australia have increased since the late 1970s. The Australian Institute for Family Studies [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_uhaUwvQlkLCIsectdPGJNkPnuTsO215Hmlz3NcicabycM8jRf2Ys9V7gWxWPeLDxe4Kv8cTuLajFs2dI4EUdi9s2Vh8iPk36Ocse87VJB9vJXYMhwX87ADIxzEC5ULv4VqPz867OTE21QuxSr-aB896-dhU1A5sWU=] reports that among fathers working 35 to 40 hours per week, 15.8% would prefer to work fewer hours. The proportion of fathers who would prefer to work fewer hours increases to 58.1% among fathers working 60 or more hours per week. In fact, according to Australian Social Trends 2006, it is reported that fathers often work longer hours than men who aren't fathers. One third of fathers with children under 15 are working over 50 hours per week while 16% put in 60 hours or more per week. The sad news is that I am not alone and workaholism is fast becoming a national characteristic. I discussed the Work/Family Balance subject with one of the Fatherhood Foundation board members, Mark Sewell. As CEO of Warrigal Care, Mark has 520 people under him. As if that isn't enough he also occupies a position on several non-profit boards and committees including the Fatherhood Foundation. Mark is one of those men who would rarely work under 50 hours in any one week, but he is a very committed husband and a very successful father of 3 wonderful children. In our discussion Mark pointed out to me that men have that inbuilt need to achieve and a desire to provide for their families. This is perfectly natural. It is only when we over identify with their work and derogate our family relationships/R&R in the process that workaholism becomes an issue. Mark cleverly pointed out that for an alcoholic to beat alcoholism he must recognize that he is an alcoholic, and then he must stop drinking alcohol. For a man to beat workaholism he must recognize his tendency to overwork and then prioritise his family and his health. Stopping work altogether is not the answer. For most men work is very fulfilling and is frequently cited as a great source of satisfaction. There is a proverb that says, 'Whatever your hand finds to do, do with all your might.' The balance is always the challenge. 'All work no play makes Jack a dull boy'. Of course the answer is to live in the tension: do well at work and do well with your family. Embracing the tension is better than running from it. Andrew Griffiths [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_vhGb8L6-NSv2MQckyXhkpNVappZBaAPWKpg-qhANFq4JJ_SFKEwl8FdljOfV0nGGJ5_7u_xki-1tG9tgV5POV8d6srFSRKzHBwtLtVigYbzsYMY2jAgCxpPCkO9eZtqWQCKFku9MzPC2WzbmnfCpZg] recovering workaholic and author of '101 Ways to Have a Business and a Life' said, "I decided my number one priority had to be my health and wellbeing. My number two priority had to be my relationships with my partner and family. Number three is my writing and number four is my business.' So it strikes me there is still hope for me yet as a recovering workaholic. Lovework The three laws of property are location, location, location. The three laws of work/family balance are priorities, priorities, priorities. Maybe that's why God had a break on the seventh day. Work hard but take your breaks and make sure you put first things first. Hypocrites for a better society Warwick Marsh PS The 2020 Summit was a great opportunity to advance our nations interest in families. It would seem political opportunism overtook due process. The opportunity to engage the men and fathers and pro-family movement of Australia was lost. We at the Fatherhood Foundation call for a Family Friendly Fatherhood Summit to turn the tide of fatherlessness and address one of Australia's most pressing social problems. Join with us as we advocate for positive family-friendly social change for the men, women and children of Australia. ______________________________________________________________________________ Warwick Marsh has been married to Alison for 32 years. He is the grandfather of two children and father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging in age from 27 years to 15 years. Warwick is a musician, songwriter, producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himself. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Laughter A workaholic finally decided to take a long overdue vacation. He booked a Caribbean cruise and was having the time of his life... until the boat sank! He found himself swept onto a desert island. Six lonely months later, he is lying on the beach when the most gorgeous woman he has ever seen rows up to him. "Where did you come from?" he asks. "I rowed from the other side of the island. I landed here when my ship sank" she says. "Amazing". "You were really lucky to have a row-boat wash up with you". "Oh this?" replies the woman. "I made the boat out of raw material that I found on the island; the oars were whittled from gum tree branches. I wove the bottom from palm branches; and the sides and stern came from a Eucalyptus tree". "But that's impossible," stutters the man, "You had no tools. How did you manage?" "Oh, no problem", replies the woman. "On the other side of the island there is a very unusual strata of alluvial rock. I found that if I fired it to a certain temperature in my kiln, it melted into forgeable ductile iron. I used that for tools." The guy is stunned. "Lets row over to my place." She says. She docks the boat at a small wharf. As the man looks onto shore, he nearly falls out of the boat. Before him is a stone walk leading to an exquisite bungalow. "It's not much but I call it home," she says. "Would you like another drink?" "No thank you," he says still dazed. "Can't take any more of that coconut juice" "It's not coconut juice," the woman replies. "I have my own still. How about a Pina Colada while I slip into something more comfortable." She returns wearing nothing but vines and a strategically placed shell necklace. "Tell me," she begins suggestively, slithering closer to him, "we've been out here a long time. You've been lonely. I've been lonely. There's something I'm sure you really feel like doing right about now, something you've been longing for all these months," her hands sliding over his legs. He can't believe what he's hearing. His heart begins to pound. He's truly in luck! "You mean." he gasps, "I can actually check my e-mail from here?" ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Grandfathers You work to live Not live to work Jeff Daker's Dad ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ All You Need is Love The Art of 'Mind Reading' By Francine & Byron Pirola . 'Mind Reading' is one of those clairvoyant arts that seems to elude us when it comes to marriage. Too often we make the mistake of assuming that our spouse knows what we need without communicating clearly about it. How many times have we, or our spouse, declared in exasperation to the injured one: "I'm not a mind reader! You have to tell me what you need if you want me to help!"? Yet when it comes to communicating negative, judgemental or critical thoughts our 'mind reading' capacity seems to have a more sensitive radar. Think 'jerk', 'idiot', 'loser', 'bitch' or any other derogatory thought about your spouse and, if they are in range, they are likely to pick up the negative vibes. Truth be told it's not actually mind reading at work. When we think negative thoughts or harbour resentment or chronic frustration, those thoughts and emotions are involuntarily expressed in our body. Even if the words we say are positive and polite, our spouse can usually detect the edge to the tone, the rigidity in our gestures, the flash of contempt in our eyes. And as Steven Stosny points out, even when our words are entirely positive, we come across to our loved ones as manipulative and dishonest and we will almost certainly get a defensive, negative reaction. Body language is indeed a powerful communicator. It's even more powerful than verbal language. In fact, when it comes to matters of the heart, our body is more believable than our words. Call it the 'Bull Sh*t Detector': we know when our spouse is saying all the right things with their words but thinking or feeling something else! They may say that they're fine, but their body is SCREAMINGthat something is definitely not fine. Or they may say that they love you, but it's clear that it's not heartfelt. So next time you're tempted to suppress negative thoughts and emotions with superficial words of peace and joy to your loved ones - STOP! Take an honest look at yourself first: look past the immediate hurt or irritation and get in touch with your deepest values and desires: the desire to be one with your spouse, the desire to be a source of genuine lifegiving love. Only then will you be able to make an authentic connection. Used with permission: www.celebratelove.com.au [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_t9i1NtXi8KIwzcuBfwDaM1Kj2o1_XZpHhB-pbWBYj1lm-5pIEgk7UBz_D-leytp1F4tQH1CO2TPXRSYvIIJcJW1X-QWoKuEZ224NvqEHch4Gk4wXn7xLYE] ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dads Know the Numbers Separation Grief: Quantifying The Problem The risks. A man getting married in Australia today and having children faces the following risks: 33% risk that his marriage will end before his children are reared. 20% risk that his marriage will end against his will. 30% risk that his children will not be living with him until they are reared. 22% risk that he will be separated from his children against his wishes. 10% risk that he will have no contact with his children by the time they are adults. Compare these figures with other health problems. A man's lifetime risk of losing contact with his children is twice that of contracting lung cancer. Young separated men are 10 times more likely to die by suicide than through road accidents. The numbers. In Australia each day 77 fathers separate from their child's mother. 71 of these 77 fathers will not be living with their children five years later. 52 of these 77 fathers are denied the amount of contact with their children that they desire. On average, at least one separated man suicides every day. In Australia today. There are 558,000 non-custodial fathers who are denied as much contact with their children as they would like. Unemployment rate amongst separated fathers is roughly triple the national average. About 1,000,000 children do not live with both parents. Both parents care for only 2.6% of these children. 300,000 children see their father less than once a year... This poll was written in 1996. - P. Vogal Editor of Certified Male. Latest Suicide Statistics published show that In 2004 sadly 1661 MALES and 437 Females suicided in this country. A Ratio of 4 to 1 (Latest ABS Stats). Source from Dads in Distress [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_uwpz8B-3XOx49YEB1Uwf73so5hBvlX5MbDuLnO1khH3w2VnxkpvS7TN_Vu7-hO0-T6Lj--m1HEA4Y2T6nJ4vmSsQQ16gEjmq18NA_inodducZ89LMbealVlcoDSnwbcIYYflam9DRkN6tSyb9XgfRNgJkEFgX1lU0=] ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Special Feature Workaholics Anonymous [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_v16RLF-xUKCtd6MqV9UpblzOsoLpC3FmSx4SY-WVOH5RDobWyYInIYfsCg0395T3rYXsqS4C1Q_fClSRxaDvgOEUpMeQi-Eaq2o8TJNehxGZ-1ENkCzVv5uTCxWl1eLCHv91bTQjc3iA==]Twenty Questions: How Do I Know If I'm A Workaholic? 1. Do you get more excited about your work than about family or anything else? 2. Are there times when you can charge through your work and other times when you can't? 3. Do you take work with you to bed? On weekends? On vacation? 4. Is work the activity you like to do best and talk about most? 5. Do you work more than 40 hours a week? 6. Do you turn your hobbies into money-making ventures? 7. Do you take complete responsibility for the outcome of your work efforts? 8. Have your family or friends given up expecting you on time? 9. Do you take on extra work because you are concerned that it won't otherwise get done? 10. Do you underestimate how long a project will take and then rush to complete it? 11. Do you believe that it is okay to work long hours if you love what you are doing? 12. Do you get impatient with people who have other priorities besides work? 13. Are you afraid that if you don't work hard you will lose your job or be a failure? 14. Is the future a constant worry for you even when things are going very well? 15. Do you do things energetically and competitively including play? 16. Do you get irritated when people ask you to stop doing your work in order to do something else? 17. Have your long hours hurt your family or other relationships? 18. Do you think about your work while driving, falling asleep or when others are talking? 19. Do you work or read during meals? 20. Do you believe that more money will solve the other problems in your life? If you answer "yes" to three or more of these questions you may be a workaholic. Relax. You are not alone. Many have found recovery through the tools of this fellowship. Take the link [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_suun__FCSk8cgHQ5noA-u6Y64B_KtMk8VLAEK7gKwhrkY7mo1MxpAMHodnNMnIH2v2mbP-KwJvNCG_sEoA7EXXMeLhf-pCrgdeWKSrpuZXpogzbLETK7QzfLH_oW4z6XCf-vAmkiUnWA==] The Twelve Steps of Workaholics Anonymous 1. We admitted we were powerless over work --- that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God. 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. 5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. 6. Became entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. 7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out. 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to workaholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ News & Info The Trivialisation of Marriage Zoo Weekly is inviting men to explain why they deserve an all-expenses-paid split from their partner, promising to take care of it for the winner - from the legal costs to hooking up the "lucky" bloke with new women. Follow the link and read more: Divorce Competition [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_s868-uYOrAe0D2OQ1nKU-eSjlvwM-VF4EewxdjvqEs_Ix6qsZsshcV2eecgJdpN63j8L5N2-kj-R3OstUDvILsuLw3ifq5lnELekXu7_ONonyTShC_8-1WrFK5RGWMMD5Vp10yOsZKQYoHaeQyFz7zt65i-CSHrHY=] Editor's Note: Zoo Weekly must be a pathetic magazine to try to pull such a stupid stunt to gain publicity. ____________________________________________________________________________ Anti Father Hetrophobia is on the rise and is at the root of our childrens education with 'husband ' and 'wife' on the banned list!! READ MORE [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_sb_zUPzlsI9mZCCV9h8eJFhIvIanfN53t5IChhFnBiyTLOArj_4bZJeZJW8BkbkoAwyvrrQHIRffaEcxUSFmN5_T7iRjVy0RQdlwDBQqGcmBYmjEcCexcm3EqOYaaDJHBmF-tBBIAy8kQFLKJrR8qYd7gOIHcJASk=] _____________________________________________________________________________ Sunshine Expo Senator Ron Boswell will be speaking at the Sunshine Coast region's LIFE Expo at Maroochydore Baptist Sunshine Coast QLD on Wednesday, April 23rd, at 6.30pm. Sunshine Coast Frontline Christian groups are gathering to network with the broader community, to present their work and needs and to offer opportunities for action. The night is all about helping and resourcing pregnant women and providing support for families. Please contact Bev Holmes-Brown for more information on T. 07 54423631 / 0401 976625 or emailbev@link-zone.net [mailto:bev@link-zone.net] _____________________________________________________________________________ The National Day of Thanksgiving is a unique opportunity for Australians to celebrate and give thanks for our God given heritage as a nation and to demonstrate the God given values of honour, respect, thankfulness and gratitude towards our fellow man that have made us the great nation we are. It is a day for us to pause as a nation and say thank you to God and to each other for those many things we often take for granted but which really make our lives worth living. Let us use this day to be a blessing to those who have been a blessing to us during the past year. An opportunity not an event-Take the link [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_uazrGeYUijfqnahZWeQAWeo0ah4kn6zEQuITVHP4hxm1cZxFiAzA_PvbvlzX3lgAJpTs22uwHJkiQiIu776g8y5tMOEP848NrCKCdMryvQUWuNQnSQv3YPSL-_uFLcQUc=] ______________________________________________________________________________ "Freedom to Love" 20-22 June 2008 Camp Somerset Rob Jones and Alan MacKenzie will speak on our childhood wounding and how these can be made sacred by the power of paradox. One of those paradoxes is that in order to become an integrated whole being, we must first separate and own all of the different parts of our self within. As long as we don't have clear boundaries between our self and others, we cannot know where we end and someone else starts - we cannot get clear on what is our stuff and what is theirs. As long as we don't have clear boundaries within ourselves, we are set up to be the victim of our own thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. Find out more & register [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=0019aw5ROOmZ_vS6TDrrXWX3PiwsH9w1vSbgXMxqBGefhUPwzImZqen2i7hQOajiJxy85tt4kH6ucumbzl54gzZmQ8KgAKPEdquY-UQm4LpbW3r4_Nms__25hfg3kkVfYSXV4kwlb_AWOU=] ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Dad's Prayer Dear God It is my joy to work and to rest. Without either I am not whole. Sigmund Freud said, "Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness." 'Cornerstones indeed'. Although when out of kilter they can fall on us and crush us beyond repair. But taken together in proper balance, they become cornerstones of a life well lived. After all, You worked, and rested on the seventh day You gave us an insight into the best way to live a balanced life. By following your example We fall into the glory of knowing your rest. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Help Us! The Fatherhood Foundation is a Harm Prevention Charity. 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Beating Workaholism
 
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Welc= ome to the Fatherhood Foundation newsletter and email information service f= or the fathers and families as we think about the balance needed between wo= rk and family life.

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Frontline...Are you a workaholic
Laughter..Missing the moment
Grandfathers...Work to Live
All You Need is Love..Mind Reading
Single Dads...Bad Numbers
Special Feature...Workaholics Checklist
News & Info..Attack on Parents
Dad's Prayer..Work & Rest
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Frontline
 

 

3D"Workaholi=I knew that writing about work/family balance would = be difficult especially as I am a hypocrite on this subject. I have just do= ne the 'how do you know if you are a workaholic' quiz at www.workaholics-anonymous= .org  There = are 20 questions and at the end it says, "If you answered 'yes' to 3 or mor= e questions there is a chance you are a workaholic or well on your way to b= ecoming one." I answered 'yes' to 13 questions of the 20 and I am thinking = of signing myself into a workaholics rehab very soon.<= /p>

 

I have always suspected that I am a = workaholic. Now I know the truth. Maybe I should sign up for the Workaholic= s Anonymous 12 Ste= p Program right now.

 

However it would seem that I am not = alone. Dr Clive Hamilton from the Australian Institute says, "Australians n= ow work more hours each year than workers in any other country in the indus= trialised world, more than the super efficient Germans, more than the Ameri= cans who only get one or two weeks annual leave, more than the Japanese, wh= o are famous for a phenomenon known as 'karoshe' or death by overwork. Jour= nalist Myles Wearring, News.com.au in his article called 'B= eating Workaholism' said, "Australia is a nation of workaholics,= with the 2006 census finding 37% of the workforce do overtime, and for hal= f of those who do it, the overtime is unpaid." Dr John Gullotta, a GP and c= hair of the Australian Medical Association Public Health Committee, said, "= The dangers of workaholism should not be underestimated. I am seeing a lot = of patients who had turned to alcohol, drugs or smoking due to overwork. Al= l those things can lead to heart disease and increased blood pressure."

 

The average hours worked by full tim= e employees in Australia have increased since the late 1970s. The Australian = Institute for Family Studies reports that among fathers working = 35 to 40 hours per week, 15.8% would prefer to work fewer hours. The propor= tion of fathers who would prefer to work fewer hours increases to 58.1% amo= ng fathers working 60 or more hours per week.

 

In fact, according to Australian Soc= ial Trends 2006, it is reported that fathers often work longer hours than m= en who aren't fathers. One third of fathers with children under 15 are work= ing over 50 hours per week while 16% put in 60 hours or more per week. The = sad news is that I am not alone and workaholism is fast becoming a national= characteristic.

 

I discussed the Work/Family Balance = subject with one of the Fatherhood Foundation board members, Mark Sewell. A= s CEO of Warrigal Care, Mark has 520 people under him. As if that isn't eno= ugh he also occupies a position on several non-profit boards and committees= including the Fatherhood Foundation. Mark is one of those men who would ra= rely work under 50 hours in any one week, but he is a very committed husban= d and a very successful father of 3 wonderful children.

 

In our discussion Mark pointed out t= o me that men have that inbuilt need to achieve and a desire to provide for= their families. This is perfectly natural. It is only when we over identif= y with their work and derogate our family relationships/R&R in the process = that workaholism becomes an issue.

 

Mark cleverly pointed out that for a= n alcoholic to beat alcoholism he must recognize that he is an alcoholic, a= nd then he must stop drinking alcohol. For a man to beat workaholism he mus= t recognize his tendency to overwork and then prioritise his family and his= health. Stopping work altogether is not the answer. For most men work is v= ery fulfilling and is frequently cited as a great source of satisfaction. T= here is a proverb that says, 'Whatever your hand finds to do, do with all y= our might.' The balance is always the challenge. 'All work no play makes Ja= ck a dull boy'.

 

Of course the answer is to live in t= he tension: do well at work and do well with your family. Embracing the ten= sion is better than running from it. Andrew Griffiths recovering workaholic and = author of '101 Ways to Have a Business and a Life' said, "I decided my numb= er one priority had to be my health and wellbeing. My number two priority h= ad to be my relationships with my partner and family. Number three is my wr= iting and number four is my business.'

 

So it strikes me there is still hope= for me yet as a recovering workaholic.

 

= Lovework

 

The three laws of property are locat= ion, location, location. The three laws of work/family balance are prioriti= es, priorities, priorities. Maybe that's why God had a break on the seventh= day. Work hard but take your breaks and make sure you put first things fir= st.

 

Hypocrites for a better society

Warwick Marsh

 

PS The 2020 Summit was a gre= at opportunity to advance our nations interest in families. It would seem p= olitical opportunism overtook due process. The opportunity to engage the me= n and fathers and pro-family movement of Australia was lost. We at the Fath= erhood Foundation call for a Family Friendly Fatherhood Summit to turn the = tide of fatherlessness and address one of Australia's most pressing social = problems. Join with us as we advocate for positive family-friendly social c= hange for the men, women and children of Australia.__________________________________________________________________________= ____

Warwick Marsh&nb= sp; has been married to Alison for 32 years. He is the grand= father of two children and father of five children, four boys and one girl,= ranging in age from 27 years to 15 years.  Warwick is a musician= , songwriter, producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still l= augh at himself.
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A workaholic finally decided to take a long overdue vacati= on. He booked a Caribbean cruise and was having the time of his life... unt= il the boat sank! He found himself swept onto a desert island. Six lonely m= onths later, he is lying on the beach when the most gorgeous woman he has e= ver seen rows up to him.

"Where did you come from?" he asks.

"I rowed from the other side of the island. I landed here when my s= hip sank" she says.

"Amazing". "You were really lucky to have a = row-boat wash up with you".

"Oh this?" replies the woman. "I mad= e the boat out of raw material that I found on the island; the oars were wh= ittled from gum tree branches. I wove the bottom from palm branches; and th= e sides and stern came from a Eucalyptus tree".

"But that's impo= ssible," stutters the man, "You had no tools. How did you manage?"
"Oh, no problem", replies the woman. "On the other side of the island th= ere is a very unusual strata of alluvial rock. I found that if I fired it t= o a certain temperature in my kiln, it melted into forgeable ductile iron. = I used that for tools." The guy is stunned.

"Lets row over to my= place." She says. She docks the boat at a small wharf. As the man looks on= to shore, he nearly falls out of the boat. Before him is a stone walk leadi= ng to an exquisite bungalow.

"It's not much but I call it home,"= she says. "Would you like another drink?"

"No thank you," he sa= ys still dazed. "Can't take any more of that coconut juice"

"It'= s not coconut juice," the woman replies. "I have my own still. How about a = Pina Colada while I slip into something more comfortable." She returns wear= ing nothing but vines and a strategically placed shell necklace.

"Tell me," she begins suggestively, slithering closer to him, "we've been = out here a long time. You've been lonely. I've been lonely. There's somethi= ng I'm sure you really feel like doing right about now, something you've be= en longing for all these months," her hands sliding over his legs.
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Not live to work<= /font>

 

Jeff Daker's Dad

 

All You Nee= d is Love

= The Art of 'Mind Reading'

By Francine = & Byron Pirola

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'Mind R= eading' is one of those clairvoyant arts that seems to elude us when it com= es to marriage. Too often we make the mistake of assuming that our spouse k= nows what we need without communicating clearly about it. How many times ha= ve we, or our spouse, declared in exasperation to the injured one: "I'm not= a mind reader! You have to tell me what you need if you want me to help!"?=

 

Yet whe= n it comes to communicating negative, judgemental or critical thoughts our = 'mind reading' capacity seems to have a more sensitive radar. Think 'jerk',= 'idiot', 'loser', 'bitch' or any other derogatory thought about your spous= e and, if they are in range, they are likely to pick up the negative vibes.=

 

Truth b= e told it's not actually mind reading at work. When we think negative thoug= hts or harbour resentment or chronic frustration, those thoughts and emotio= ns are involuntarily expressed in our body. Even if the words we say are po= sitive and polite, our spouse can usually detect the edge to the tone, the = rigidity in our gestures, the flash of contempt in our eyes. And as Steven = Stosny points out, even when our words are entirely positive, we come acros= s to our loved ones as manipulative and dishonest and we will almost certai= nly get a defensive, negative reaction.

 

Body la= nguage is indeed a powerful communicator. It's even more powerful than verb= al language. In fact, when it comes to matters of the heart, our body is mo= re believable than our words.

 

Call it= the 'Bull Sh*t Detector': we know when our spouse is saying all the= right things with their words but thinking or feeling something else! They= may say that they're fine, but their body is SCREAMINGthat something is definitely not= fine. Or they may say that they love you, but it's clear that it's not= heartfelt.

 

So next= time you're tempted to suppress negative thoughts and emotions with superf= icial words of peace and joy to your loved ones - STOP! Take an honest look= at yourself first: look past the immediate hurt or irritation and get in t= ouch with your deepest values and desires: the desire to be one with your s= pouse, the desire to be a source of genuine lifegiving love. Only then will= you be able to make an authentic connection.

 

Used with permission:

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Separation Grief: Quantifying The Probl= em

The risks.

A man getting married in A= ustralia today and having children faces the following risks:
33% ris= k that his marriage will end before his children are reared.
20% risk= that his marriage will end against his will.
30% risk that his child= ren will not be living with him until they are reared.
22% risk that = he will be separated from his children against his wishes.
10% risk t= hat he will have no contact with his children by the time they are adults. =

Compare these figures with other health problems.=

A man's lifetime risk of losing contact with his children is t= wice that of contracting lung cancer. Young separated men are 10 times more= likely to die by suicide than through road accidents.  =

The numbers.

In Australia each day 77 fathers separate from their child's mother.
71 of these 77 fat= hers will not be living with their children five years later.
52 of t= hese 77 fathers are denied the amount of contact with their children that t= hey desire.

On average, at least one separated man suicides eve= ry day.

In Australia today.

There are 558,000= non-custodial fathers who are denied as much contact with their children a= s they would like. Unemployment rate amongst separated fathers is roughly t= riple the national average. About 1,000,000 children do not live with both = parents. Both parents care for only 2.6% of these children. 300,000 childre= n see their father less than once a year...
This poll was written in = 1996. - P. Vogal Editor of Certified Male.

Latest Suicide Statistics published show that In 2004 sadly <= br />1661 MALES and 437 Females
suicided in this country.

A Ratio of 4 to 1 (Latest ABS Stats).

Source from  Dads in Di= stress

Special Feature
 
  3D"Workaholic_2"

<= a href=3D"http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=3D0019aw5ROOmZ_v16RLF-xUKCtd6MqV9UpblzOso= LpC3FmSx4SY-WVOH5RDobWyYInIYfsCg0395T3rYXsqS4C1Q_fClSRxaDvgOEUpMeQi-Eaq2o8T= JNehxGZ-1ENkCzVv5uTCxWl1eLCHv91bTQjc3iA=3D=3D" target=3D"_blank">Workaholic= s Anonymous

<= font size=3D"5">Twenty Questions: How Do I Know If I'm A Workaholic?=

  1. Do yo= u get more excited about your work than about family or anything else?
  2. Are t= here times when you can charge through your work and other times when you c= an't?
  3. Do yo= u take work with you to bed? On weekends? On vacation?
  4. Is wo= rk the activity you like to do best and talk about most?
  5. Do yo= u work more than 40 hours a week?
  6. Do yo= u turn your hobbies into money-making ventures?
  7. Do yo= u take complete responsibility for the outcome of your work efforts?
  8. Have = your family or friends given up expecting you on time?
  9. Do yo= u take on extra work because you are concerned that it won't otherwise get = done?
  10. Do yo= u underestimate how long a project will take and then rush to complete it? =
  11. Do yo= u believe that it is okay to work long hours if you love what you are doing= ?
  12. Do yo= u get impatient with people who have other priorities besides work?
  13. Are y= ou afraid that if you don't work hard you will lose your job or be a failur= e?
  14. Is th= e future a constant worry for you even when things are going very well?
  15. Do yo= u do things energetically and competitively including play?
  16. Do yo= u get irritated when people ask you to stop doing your work in order to do = something else?
  17. Have = your long hours hurt your family or other relationships?
  18. Do yo= u think about your work while driving, falling asleep or when others are ta= lking?
  19. Do yo= u work or read during meals?
  20. Do yo= u believe that more money will solve the other problems in your life?

If you answer "yes" to three or more of these questions you may be= a workaholic. Relax. You are not alone. Many have found recovery through t= he tools of this fellowship. Take the link

<= font size=3D"5">The Twelve Steps of Workaholics Anonymous
  1. We ad= mitted we were powerless over work --- that our lives had become unmanageab= le.
  2. Came = to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. =
  3. Made = a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we und= erstood God.
  4. Made = a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admit= ted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of ou= r wrongs.
  6. Becam= e entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbl= y asked God to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made = a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to t= hem all.
  9. Made = direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would = injure them or others.
  10. Conti= nued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it= .
  11. Sough= t through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God a= s we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and th= e power to carry that out.
  12. Havin= g had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry= this message to workaholics, and to practice these principles in all our a= ffairs.
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   News & Info
 
The Trivialisation of Marriag= e 3D"Man

Zoo Weekly is inviting men to explain why they deserve an all-e= xpenses-paid split from their partner, promising to take care of it for the= winner - from the legal costs to hooking up the "lucky" bloke with new wom= en. Follow the link and read more:
Divorce Competition
 
Editor's Note: Zoo Weekly must be a pathetic magazine= to try to pull such a stupid stunt to gain publicity.
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Anti Father Hetr= ophobia is on the rise and is at the root of our childrens education with '= husband ' and 'wife' on the banned list!!   READ MORE 
 
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Sunshine Expo

Senator Ron Boswell will be speaking at the Sunshine Coast reg= ion's LIFE Expo at Maroochydore Baptist Sunshine Coast= QLD on Wednesday, April 23rd, at 6.30pm.

Sunshine Coast Frontline Christian groups are gathering to net= work with the broader community, to present the= ir work and needs and to offer opportunities for actio= n. The night is all about helping and resourcin= g   pregnant women and providing support for families.

Please contact Bev Holmes-Brown for more information on T. 07 = 54423631 / 0401 976625   or email<= /font> bev@link-zone.net

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3D"Thanksgiving
The National Day of Thanksgiving is a unique opportunity fo= r Australians to celebrate and give thanks for our God given = ;heritage as a nation and to demonstrate the God given values of honou= r, respect, thankfulness and gratitude towards our fellow man that have mad= e us the great nation we are.
 
It is a day for us to pause as a nation and say thank you t= o God and to each other for those many things we often take for grante= d but which really make our lives worth living.  Let us use this day t= o be a blessing to those who have been a blessing to us during the pas= t year.
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3D"MTM"Freedom to Love"
20-22 June= 2008 Camp Somerset
 = ;Rob Jones and Alan MacKenzie will speak o= n our childhood wounding and how these can be made sacred by the power of p= aradox. One of those paradoxes is that in order to become an integrated who= le being, we must first separate and own all of the different parts of our = self within. As long as we don't have clear boundaries between our self and= others, we cannot know where we end and someone else starts - we cannot ge= t clear on what is our stuff and what is theirs. As long as we don't have c= lear boundaries within ourselves, we are set up to be the victim of our own= thoughts, feelings, and behaviour.
 
D= ad's Prayer
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<= font size=3D"4">Dear God

 

<= font size=3D"4">It is my joy to work and to rest.

<= font size=3D"4">Without either I am not whole.

 

<= font size=3D"4">Sigmund Freud said, "Love and work<= /font>

<= font size=3D"4">are the cornerstones of our humanne= ss."

<= font size=3D"4">'Cornerstones indeed'.

<= font size=3D"4">Although when out of kilter they ca= n fall on us

<= font size=3D"4">and crush us beyond repair.<= /font>

<= font size=3D"4">But taken together in proper balanc= e,

<= font size=3D"4">they become cornerstones of a life = well lived.

<= font size=3D"4">After all, You worked,

<= font size=3D"4">and rested on the seventh day

<= font size=3D"4">You gave us an insight

<= font size=3D"4">into the best way to live a balance= d life.

<= font size=3D"4">By following your example

<= font size=3D"4">We fall into the glory of knowing y= our rest.

 
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Fatherlessness and inadequate fathering has been pro= ven to be a source of harm. The Fatherhood Foundation helps children b= y promoting excellence  in fathering. Excellent fathers are in word an= d deed: responsible, involved, protective, loving and committed to the well= -being of their children and their children's mother.

 

If you would like to give financially t= o the Fatherhood Foundation Public Fund and receive tax deductibility:

 

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Or mail cheque and address details to:<= br />PO Box 440
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