Received: from beru.its.uow.edu.au (130.130.68.31) by staffmail.uow.edu.au (10.5.102.13) with Microsoft SMTP Server id 8.1.291.1; Sun, 2 Nov 2008 08:26:56 +1100 Received: from febris-nat.its.uow.edu.au ([130.130.68.210] helo=febris.its.uow.edu.au) by beru.its.uow.edu.au with esmtp (Exim 4.69) (envelope-from ) id 1KwNzj-0006dl-Vo for blane@uow.edu.au; Sun, 02 Nov 2008 08:26:56 +1100 Received: from c3.confirmedcc.com (c3.confirmedcc.com [64.95.77.164]) by febris.its.uow.edu.au (MOS 3.10.2-GA) with ESMTP id PLJ72519; Sun, 2 Nov 2008 08:26:52 +1100 (EST) Received: from p2-ws508.ad.prodcc.net (unknown [10.252.0.101]) by c3.confirmedcc.com (Postfix) with ESMTP id 21D6534E909A for ; Sat, 1 Nov 2008 17:10:42 -0400 (EDT) From: Fatherhood Foundation To: Brian Lane Date: Sun, 2 Nov 2008 08:11:23 +1100 Subject: Battle for the Family Thread-Topic: Battle for the Family Thread-Index: Ack8aJFh2mqBiZi8QD63MyXBDP8jkg== Message-ID: <1102297139003.1101938345415.1211.8.114171002@scheduler> List-Unsubscribe: http://visitor.constantcontact.com/d.jsp?p=un&v=001jm8CFGIzLJHYg-gJRLc-3d90mBLDU8yk8K915UvAhVHFVnzq3V1lnQ== Reply-To: "info@fathersonline.org" Accept-Language: en-AU, en-US Content-Language: en-US X-MS-Exchange-Organization-AuthAs: Anonymous X-MS-Exchange-Organization-AuthSource: excasht01.ad.uow.edu.au X-MS-Has-Attach: X-MS-TNEF-Correlator: x-junkmail-status: score=10/49, host=febris.its.uow.edu.au x-junkmail-sd-raw: score=unknown, refid=str=0001.0A090206.490CC99F.01D9:SCFMA772204,ss=1,fgs=0, ip=64.95.77.164, so=2008-08-01 02:07:42, dmn=5.7.1/2008-09-02, mode=single engine x-junkmail-iwf: false x-return-path-hint: ESC1102297139003_1101938345415_1211@in.confirmedcc.com x-roving-id: 1101938345415.1211 x-lumos-senderid: 1101938345415 x-roving-campaignid: 1102297139003 x-roving-streamid: 0 Content-Type: multipart/alternative; boundary="_000_1102297139003110193834541512118114171002scheduler_" MIME-Version: 1.0 --_000_1102297139003110193834541512118114171002scheduler_ Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/11.jpg?a=3D11= 02297139003] 3rd November 2008 Inspiring Fathers Encouraging Families Issue 324 [http://img.constantcontact.com/letters/images/1101093164665/people3_header= 1.jpg] Battle for the Family Dear Brian, Welcome to the Fatherhood Foundation newsletter and email information servi= ce for fathers and families as we present the Battle for the Family. In This Issue Frontline...Bringing up Family Laughter..Leotarded Grandfathers...The Family will stand Single Dads...More time with kids All You Need is Love..August 1942 Special Feature...The Natural Family News & Info..Parents Links Dads4Kids Dad's Prayer..Embrace the Sacrifice Next Week Love in Action Join our Mailing List! [http://img.constantcontact.com/ui/images1/ftf_btn_1.gif] Quick Links Fatherhood Foundation Family Law Web Guide National Fatherhood Institute National Marriage Coalition Camp Connect Men's Katoomba Convention Fathersafterdivorce.com Steve Biddulph CSA Adverts Thought of the Week [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/469.jpg?a=3D1= 102297139003] The natural family is the source of bountiful joy. Prof Allan C Carlson Frontline [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/470.jpg?a=3D1= 102297139003] Bringing up a family can be challenging at the best of times. These days we= seem to live in an anti-family society that seems to be hell-bent on the d= estruction of the natural family. If it isn't some Hollywood producer who h= as been married for the seventh time, producing celluloid hate mail against= marriage and true love, it's politicians bending over backwards to please = powerful minorities who seem to have a pathological predisposition against = our children before they are even born, or even academics firing salvos aga= inst the natural family whilst embracing all sorts of perversions and anoma= lies which encourage ever increasing rates of sexual abuse of our children.= Even the very notion of 'family' is under great attack. Why is this so? The causes are many and varied but one of the main reasons is our success a= s a society. With success comes affluence and with affluence comes self-cen= tredness and apathy. To embrace selfishness and narcissism, we must reject = marriage and family, because to accept marriage is to accept love and to ac= cept love means to sacrifice self. The same goes for family. If you want t= o learn unselfishness, get married and have children. As a young man I remember people asking me, "How many children do you have?= " When I replied, "Five," I could almost hear them thinking, "What sort of = idiot do we have here?" The jokes were many, "Must be a Catholic, ha ha. Do= n't you have a TV? ho, ho." I'm not a Catholic, but I do have a faith. I al= so have a TV, although I try not to watch it too much. The attack against the family in recent years also has an ideological basis= . In 1848 Karl Marx and Frederick Engels released the Communist Manifesto. The over-arching purpose of communism could be argued as noble, that is, to= produce a society that owned everything in common and where everyone was e= qual. From Marx & Engel's point of view this could only come about by holdi= ng strictly to three basic tenets. 1. The elimination of private property. 2. The elimination of the family unit. 3. The elimination of the 'opiate of the people' - religion. In communism, it was all about the evolutionary process where the end justi= fies the means and so a fourth principle was rigorously adhered to, that is= , the elimination of anyone who disagrees with the first three tenets. Terr= y O'Neil writes in REPORT Newsmagazine, January 21, 2002. ...Communism gave rise to some of the most murderous regimes in the histor= y of the world. As documented in The Black Book of Communism, an important = work first published in France in 1997, Marxist regimes led to the death of= at least 100 million victims. Communism has committed a multitude of crimes not only against individual h= uman beings but also against world civilization and national cultures," wri= tes Stephane Courtoris, one of six co-authors, all of whom describe themsel= ves as former Communists or 'fellow travellers' with Communism. My own background as a student revolutionary and co-worker with communists = is not something I am necessarily proud of. I was idealistic. I thought uto= pia could be manufactured by man. My dad used to say that communism was 'ru= le by the gun'. I should have listened to him. Jesus said, 'those who live = by the sword die by the sword'. The reality is that communism, as proposed = by Karl Marx, was a monumental failure. The Marxist goal to eliminate and d= estroy marriage and family has been very successful. Justice Lionel Murphy,= the inspiration behind the now discredited Family Law Act 1975, took great= inspiration from the soviet model of the state as father. The reality is t= hat the state can never replace father or mother. Try as they will, the nat= ural family will always be the foundation for a just and equitable society. Lovework I know you probably aren't a big reader, but do yourself a favour and read = Prof Allan Carlson's brilliant speech about the natural family in this week= 's Special Feature, delivered at the recent Australian Family Association C= onference in Perth, where I was also a contributor. It is important for us = to know what we are up against. But always remember that the greatest weapon you have in the battle for the= family is love, because love is the greatest force in the universe. Yours for more love Warwick Marsh PS International Men's Day will be celebrated on Wednesday 19th Novemb= er 2008. Why not get some guys together for a barbecue or a quiet drink? You could e= ven organise a community celebration. The 19th November 2008 is a special day of commemoration for Australians be= cause it is the day the HMAS Sydney went down with the loss of 645 men, the= biggest single loss of life for Australia on any one day of World War II. The Australian celebration of International Men's Day is all about honourin= g Aussie men: our sons, fathers and grandfathers, past and present, for all= the sacrifices they have made and are still making today for their friends= , family, children and nation. ____________________________________________________________________ Warwick Marsh has been married to Alison for 32 years. He is the grandfath= er of two children and father of five children, four boys and one girl, ran= ging in age from 27 years to 15 years. Warwick is a musician, songwriter, = producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himsel= f. Laughter [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/478.jpg?a=3D1= 102297139003] I feel like my body has gotten totally out of shape, so I got my doctor's = permission to join a fitness club and start exercising. I decided to take an aerobics class for mature ladies. I bent, twisted, gyrated, jumped up and down, and perspired for an hour. Bu= t,by the time I got my leotards on, the class was over. Grandfathers [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/471.jpg?a=3D1= 102297139003] In the break-up of the modern world the family will stand out stark and strong is it did before the beginning of history; the only thing that can really remain a loyalty, because it is also a liberty. G K Chesterton Single Dads [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/472.jpg?a=3D= 1102297139003] Most divorced dads want more time with children By Patricia Karvelas, Political correspondent 18 October 2008 The Australian Three-quarters of divorced fathers want to have custody of their children f= or at least 50 per cent of the time, while as many as 36 per cent wish they= could have their children all of the time. Based on a survey of 300 child-support payers, mostly fathers, and 300 paye= es, mostly mothers, the research shows that some women also want less time = with their children and are willing to share the load. According to the survey, conducted by the Child Support Agency, 61 per cent= of parents (mostly women) receiving money from their former partners said = they would ideally like to have their children all of the time. But significantly, 36 per cent were happy to share their children 50 per ce= nt of the time or more. This is inconsistent with reality. At the moment, the overall main carer ra= tio is about 87 per cent women and 13 per cent men. The figures reveal that= a lot would be willing to have shared arrangements, but do not currently h= ave them. Human Services Minister Joe Ludwig said it demonstrated that fathers wanted= more to do with their children. "The striking changes in the roles of men and women in Australian society a= re being reflected in parenting after separation," Senator Ludwig said. "Mo= st separated dads are working hard to support their kids and the survey sho= ws a large percentage want more to do in their children's lives." The survey commissioned by the Child Support Agency charts that there were = strong, positive changes in how parents viewed their relationship with thei= r former partner, over a six-month period that included the introduction in= July of a new system for calculating child support payments. Under the new system, the greater the proportion of time the paying parent = has custody of their child, the less their repayments are. In August, 43 per cent of parents said they were very likely to deal with t= he other parent in a businesslike way - up from 26 per cent in February. "That represents 250,000 mums and dads who now say they've improved the way= they deal with each other," Senator Ludwig said. The survey also shows a dramatic drop in the number of parents saying they = were very unlikely to deal in a businesslike way with their former partner.= That figure has fallen from 45 per cent to 26 per cent over the same perio= d. "The new child support system is designed to cement these social trends tow= ards greater shared parental responsibility," the senator said. "Some fathers are responding to the new child support system, which encoura= ges a greater proportion of shared care." As the new scheme is bedded down, Senator Ludwig expected these positive so= cial trends to improve further. All You Need is Love [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/462.jpg?a=3D1= 102297139003] August 1942 (continued) But at 8 A.M. there was a commotion. I heard shouts, and saw people running= every which way through camp. I caught up with my brothers. Russian troops= had liberated the camp! The gates swung open. Everyone was running, so I d= id too. Amazingly, all of my brothers had survived; I'm not sure how. But I= knew that the girl with the apples had been the key to my survival. In a place where evil seemed triumphant, one person's goodness had saved my= life, had given me hope in a place where there was none. My mother had pro= mised to send me an angel, and the angel had come. Eventually I made my way to England where I was sponsored by a Jewish chari= ty, put up in a hostel with other boys who had survived the Holocaust, and = trained in electronics. Then I came to America, where my brother Sam had al= ready moved. I served in the U. S. Army during the Korean War, and returned= to New York City after two years. By August 1957 I'd opened my own electronics repair shop. I was starting to= settle in. One day, my friend Sid who I knew from England called me. 'I've got a date. She's got a Polish friend. Let's double date.' A blind da= te? Nah, that wasn't for me. But Sid kept pestering me, and a few days later we headed up to the Bronx t= o pick up his date and her friend Roma. I had to admit, for a blind date this wasn't so bad. Roma was a nurse at a = Bronx hospital. She was kind and smart. Beautiful, too, with swirling brown= curls and green, almond-shaped eyes that sparkled with life. The four of us drove out to Coney Island. Roma was easy to talk to, easy to= be with. Turned out she was wary of blind dates too! We were both just doing our friends a favor. We took a stroll on the boardw= alk, enjoying the salty Atlantic breeze, and then had dinner by the shore. = I couldn't remember having a better time. We piled back into Sid's car, Roma and I sharing the backseat. As European Jews who had survived the war, we were aware that much had been= left unsaid between us. She broached the subject, 'Where were you,' she as= ked softly, 'during the war?' 'The camps,' I said. The terrible memories still vivid, the irreparable los= s. I had tried to forget. But you can never forget. She nodded. 'My family was hiding on a farm in Germany , not far from Berli= n,' she told me. 'My father knew a priest, and he got us Aryan papers.' I imagined how she must have suffered too, fear, a constant companion. And = yet here we were both survivors, in a new world. 'There was a camp next to = the farm.' Roma continued. 'I saw a boy there and I would throw him apples = every day.' What an amazing coincidence that she had helped some other boy. 'What did h= e look like?' I asked. 'He was tall, skinny, and hungry. I must have seen him every day for six mo= nths.' My heart was racing. I couldn't believe it. This couldn't be. 'Did he tell you one day not to come back because he was leaving Schlieben?= ' Roma looked at me in amazement. 'Yes!' 'That was me!' I was ready to burst with joy and awe, flooded with emotions. I couldn't be= lieve it! My angel. 'I'm not letting you go.' I said to Roma. And in the back of the car on tha= t blind date, I proposed to her. I didn't want to wait. 'You're crazy!' she said.. But she invited me to meet her parents for Shabb= at dinner the following week. There was so much I looked forward to learning about Roma, but the most imp= ortant things I always knew: her steadfastness, her goodness. For many mont= hs, in the worst of circumstances, she had come to the fence and given me h= ope. Now that I'd found her again, I could never let her go. That day, she said yes. And I kept my word. After nearly 50 years of marria= ge, two children and three grandchildren, I have never let her go. Herman Rosenblat of Miami Beach, Florida. This story is being made into a movie called 'The Fence'. Special Feature [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/477.jpg?a=3D1= 102297139003] The Natural Family in an Unnatural World Perth, Western Australia October 18, 2008 By Allan Carlson Part 1. That the family system of the Western nations is in crisis seems clear. Hi= storically low birth rates, the rapid spread of cohabitation, the legal dis= mantling of the institution of marriage, and climbing divorce are all signs= of a fundamental turning point in the social development of the West. Certain powerful voices among the once Christian nations actually welcome t= hese changes, as signs of liberation. They favor the Swedish model of soci= al democracy, where the old socialist dream of dismantling the family has f= inally come true. They extol the leveling of the sexes, and the disappeara= nce of potent labels such as "husband" and "wife," "mother" and "father." = They celebrate the disappearance of marriage as a meaningful cultural and l= egal structure with claims of its own on society and individuals. They rel= ish the elimination of free homes, once rich in function and loyalties, to = be replaced by governmental structures and the sole bond of the individual = to the state. They seek the essential collectivization of children. As economic determinists of the closeted neo-Marxist sort, these same voice= s also claim to be in the vanguard of history. They believe that the mater= ial forces of post-industrial society require this evolution of a new form = of living: a post-family model which reconciles the atomistic individual wi= th the total state. In pursuing this ideology, they have willingly and ope= nly sacrificed the natural order, building an unnatural world in its place.= .. I believe that this can be done by focusing on the phrase, "the natural fam= ily." Words convey ideas...and ideals. And we are now engaged in a battle= over the meaning of key words. In May 1998, a Working Group of the World = Congress of Families - including Australia's Peter Westmore - met in a Seco= nd Century B.C. room in the ancient city of Rome, to craft a definition of = this term: The natural family is the fundamental social unit, inscribed in human natur= e, and centered around the voluntary union of a man and a woman in a lifelo= ng covenant of marriage for the purposes of satisfying the longings of the = human heart to give and receive love, welcoming and ensuring the full physi= cal and emotional development of children, sharing a home that serves as th= e center for social, educational, economic, and spiritual life, building st= rong bonds among the generations to pass on a way of life that has transcen= dent meaning, and extending a hand of compassion to individuals and househo= lds whose circumstances fall short of these ideals. In expanding on this phrase, I want to highlight recognition of the natural= family in five ways: as part of the created order; as imprinted on our na= tures; as the source of bountiful joy; as the fountain of new life; and as = the bulwark of liberty. First, PART OF THE NATURAL CREATED ORDER . . . What does science teach? The founders of modern anthropology also he= ld that marriage is an unchanging institution, universal in its basic eleme= nts and common to all humanity. As Edward Westermarck explained a century = ago: "Among the lowest savages, as well as the most civilized races of men,= we find the family consisting of parents and children, and the father as i= ts protector." Marriage bound this family system together, uniting 'a regu= lated sexual relation' with 'economic obligations. [i]. . . Second, the natural family is IMPRINTED ON OUR NATURE AS HUMANS While the main current of Western philosophy and social science rushed towa= rd Marxist forms of understanding in the late 19th and 20th centuries, a di= ssenting school of sociology offered an alternate analysis, one focused on = humankind's familial nature. The first of these dissenters was the French = academic, Frederic Le Play, active in the 1870's and 1880's.[ii] Le Play argued that human behavior did not follow the theoretical schemes o= f his liberal and socialist contempories. Rather, he identified and sought= to explain the close relation between what he called 'la famille soudre'-o= r the stem family-and historical examples of a stable, creative prosperity.= This stem family held the nuclear dyad of husband and wife at its core, y= et also embraced extended kin. He argued that this family form, "by a rema= rkable favor of Providence has within its very structure the beneficient qu= alities of the individual and those of association." Three great 20th Century sociologists based their efforts on the legacy of = Le Play: Carle Zimmerman; Pitirim Sorokin; and Robert Nisbet. Carle Zimmerman, Professor of Sociology at America's Harvard University, wr= ote Family and Civilization in 1947. It traced the course of family struct= ures throughout the globe and across the millennia. In describing the pros= pects for family reconstruction, Zimmerman embraced Le Play's concept of th= e stem family, re-labelling it the domestic family. Importantly, Zimmerman insisted that this domestic family model could be fo= und "among all people who combine the benefits of agriculture, industry, an= d settled life with the commonsense idea of defending their private life fr= om the domination of legislators, from the invasion of bureaucrats, and fro= m the exaggerations of the manufacturing regime." Sorokin was born and educated in Russia, but expelled by the Bolsheviks in = 1921, Sorokin shared with Zimmerman a common debt to Le Play, accepting his= concept of the stem family as the most stable, creative, and natural socia= l form. In his book, The Crisis of Our Age, Sorokin emphasized the tie of = mounting social turmoil to shrinking family size and the atrophy of family = functions, most notably education. The only feasible course was to launch = a new cultural order. As he put it: A transformation of the forms of social relationship, by replacing the pres= ent compulsory and contractual relationships with purer and more godly fami= listic relationships, is the order of the day....Not only are they the nobl= est of all relationships, but under the circumstances there is no way out o= f the present triumph of barbarian force but through the realm of familisti= c relationships. The third great sociologist in this tradition was Robert Nisbet, whom I cou= nted as a friend and mentor. He is best known as the author of the books, = The Quest for Community and The Twilight of Authority.[iii] In the latter = volume, published in 1975, Nisbet offered a passage of profound importance.= "It should be obvious," he says, "that family, not the individual, is the= real molecule of society, the key link of the social chain of being. It i= s inconceivable to me that either intellectual growth or social order or th= e roots of liberty can possibly be maintained among a people unless the kin= ship tie is strong and has both functional significance and symbolic author= ity."[iv] (To be continued) Due to space restrictions Prof Carlson's article has been printed, in part,= over two weeks. Please email info@fatherhood.org.au to requ= est a copy of the full article. ____________________ Allan Carlson is President of The Howard Center for Family, Religion & Soci= ety and International Secretary of The World Congress of Families. He also= currently serves as Visiting Distinguished Professor of Political Science = and History at Hillsdale College, in Michiga [i] Edward Westermarck, The History of Human Marriage: 5th Edition (Londo= n: Macmillan, 1925): 26-37, 69-72. [ii] For the seminal work, see: Pierre Guillaume and Frederic LePlay, Le = Reform Sociale, Vol. 1, Book 3 (Tours: A Mameetfils, 1887): chapters 24-30. [iii] Robert Nisbet, Quest for Community: A Study in the Ethics of Order = & Freedom (San Francisco: Institute for Contemporary Studies, 1990 [1953]);= and Robert Nisbet, Twilight of Authority (New York: Oxford University Pres= s, 1975). [iv] Ibid., p. 260. News & Info Parents Links Schools in - 12 Assaults a Week! FRIGHTENED students, teachers and principals are reporting more than 12 ass= aults a week in Victoria's state schools. Education Department records show 1227 allegations of assault involving sta= te school students and staff have been filed in just over two school years.= A further 247 sex abuse cases were alleged. Working Parents Money Tight Almost 37 per cent of sole parent families and 27 per cent of families with= one breadwinner were finding it difficult to manage. ________________________________________________________________ A survey for Good to Great participants has been circulated. If you attende= d these courses please complete the survey. This is an important opportunit= y for the Fatherhood Foundation to increase the course through a funding a= pplication. Take the Survey ________________________________________________________________ [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/474.gif?a=3D= 1102297139003] [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/473.jpg?a=3D= 1102297139003] The Movember Foundation (ABN 48 894 537 905) is a national, not for p= rofit, charitable organisation that runs the Movember event each year. Movember is a registered charity that has Deductible Gift Receipt, GST Conc= ession and Income Tax Exemption status approved by the Australian Tax Offic= e. The Movember event raises awareness around men's health issues and funds fo= r carefully selected beneficiary partners that are also charitable organisa= tions, with a focus on prostate cancer and depression in men. Since its inception as a formal charity in 2004 Movember has raised over $3= 0 million globally, significantly increased awareness of prostate cancer an= d depression in the community, and is continuously working to change the at= titude men have about their health. Movember's current beneficiary partners in Australia are: The Prostate Cancer Foundation of Australia (PCFA) whose aim is to reduce t= he impact of prostate cancer on Australian men, their partners, their famil= ies and the community. The money raised by Movember is used by the PCFA to: Fund research into the causes, detection, diagnosis and improved treatment = of prostate cancer. Provide information, support and counseling to those af= fected by prostate cancer. Raise community awareness of the incidence of pr= ostate cancer, thereby encouraging earlier detection and more effective tre= atment of the disease. beyondblue: the national depression initiative whose= aim is to increase the communities awareness of depression and address the= associated stigma of living with depression. The money raised by Movember = is dedicated to improving men's health in rural, remote, regional and metro= areas across Australia by supporting men's health projects. beyondblue's five priorities: Increased community awareness of depression, anxiety and related substance = misuse disorders and addressing associated stigma. Providing men living wit= h depression and their carers with information on the illness and effective= treatment options and promoting their needs and experiences with policy ma= kers and healthcare service providers. Developing depression prevention and= early intervention programs. Improving training and support for GP's and o= ther healthcare professionals on depression. Initiating and supporting depr= ession-related research. [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/475.jpg?a=3D1= 102297139003] [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/1.jpg?a=3D110= 2297139003] Media Release International Men's Day - 19th November 2008 International Men's Day will have its inaugural celebration in Australia on= 19th November 2008. Russian President, Mikhail Gorbachev, = first called for an international day to celebrate men in 1999 at the Unite= d Nations in Vienna. International Men's Day is celebrated on many differen= t dates around the world with varying degrees of success. To help standardize International Men's Day and increase its success the In= dian 'Save the Family Foundation' laun= ched an international campaign and called for the celebration of Internati= onal Men's Day on 19th November along with Pakistan, Trinidad and Tobago. Australia is joining with India, which has the second largest male populati= on in the world, to call other countries around the world to make 19th Nove= mber 2008 a day to honour men for the contribution they make to their fami= ly, friends, work, community and nation. Warwick Marsh, from the Dads4Kids Fatherhood Foundation said, "We contacted= the leaders of the Save the Family Foundation in India, the leading advoca= tes for International Men's Day, before sharing the vision with several lea= ders in the Australian men and father's movement at the National Shared Par= enting Conference in Gosford, NSW on 14th June 2008. The respon= se in Australia for an International Men's Day has been really positive. Al= ready in Australia we have watched the phenomenal expansion of Movember, which promotes men's health, so it's great to see all these things happe= ning for men in the month of November. Movember is exploding in influence a= round the world." Mr Marsh continued, "The 19th November is historically a day of great signi= ficance for every Australian. In 1941 it was the day that the HMAS Sydney I= I was lost. The 19th November 2008 commemorates the loss of 645 men = when the HMAS Sydney sank off the coast of Western Australia, the greatest loss of men's lives on any one day by Australian forces= in World War II." "The theme for the International Men's Day 2008 is 'Honour and Sacrifice'. = This commemorates what our Aussie men, sons, fathers and grandfathers, both= past and present, have sacrificed for their families, communities and nati= on," Mr Marsh said. "We call on other countries to join in solidarity to celebrate the positive= contribution that men make to the world on International Men's Day, Wednes= day 19th November 2008." For more information please contact: Warwick Marsh Dads4Kids Fatherhood Foundation 0418 225212 02 4272 6677 info@fatherhood.org.au www.fatherhood.org.au Dads4Kids Dads4KIds Competition[http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/11019383= 45415/img/402.jpg?a=3D1102297139003] Fatherhood Foundation is asking Australians to help Dads4Kids with their id= eas on how to solve the problems that Australian children face. Dads4Kids i= s an initiative of the Fatherhood Foundation which is a harm prevention cha= rity. Find out more information or enter the Dads4Kids Competition. View Community Service Announcements at:http://www.dads4kids.org.au/Media Dear Dads4Kids I have never heard of you organisation until I saw the add on the tele toda= y. What a great thing that you are trying to achieve, the sad truth is that= not all kids will get a great start, but all we can do is try. I would lik= e to get more info and more involved in this as I feel that's the least we = can do for our children, not only our son, but maybe help some that are not= so fortunate to have a family. Chris ____________________________ I'd like to say I appreciate the good intention of the Fatherhood Foundatio= n but I'm concerned by your choice of Matthew Hayden as the person to deliv= er your message. In fact I feel insulted by the image of someone who spends= at best a total of four months a year at home with his family telling me h= ow important it is to spend time with my children. My wife and I have made = a choice to earn less income to be able to spend every day with our kids an= d to be available for sport every weekend. Matthew Hayden has chosen an extremely well paid profession that sees him s= pending most nights each year at a hotel bar with his work mates usually in= another country. The Foundation must believe most dads are totally stupid = not to see the hypocrisy there. My son and I are cricket fans and we spent = a lot of time each week with cricket training and games but I find your ads= annoying! Thanks for your time, Mark Dad's Prayer [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/476.jpg?a=3D1= 102297139003] Dear God Help me embrace the sacrifice found in family life. To know love I must first learn sacrifice. I really don't like the idea so hopefully Allan Carlson is right - that bountiful joy is available on the other side. Just help me get there without a breakdown! Help Us! The Fatherhood Foundation is a Harm Prevention Charity. Fatherlessness and inadequate fathering has been proven to be a source of h= arm. 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Battle for the Family
Dear Brian,

Welcome to the Fatherhood Foundation newsletter and email inform= ation service for fathers and families as we present the Bat= tle for the Family.

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In This Issue
Frontline...Bringing up Family
Laughter..Leotarded
Grandfathers...The Family will stand
Single Dads...More time with kids
All You Need is Love..August 1942
Special Feature...The Natural Family
News & Info..Parents Links
Dads4Kids
Dad's Prayer..Embrace the Sacrifice
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 Thought of the Week
 

3D"Young

 

The natural family i= s the source of bountiful joy.
 
Prof Allan C Carlson=

Frontline
3D"Family Bringing = up a family can be challenging at the best of times. These days we seem to = live in an anti-family society that seems to be hell-bent on the destructio= n of the natural family. If it isn't some Hollywood producer who has been m= arried for the seventh time, producing celluloid hate mail against marriage= and true love, it's politicians bending over backwards to please powerful = minorities who seem to have a pathological predisposition against our child= ren before they are even born, or even academics firing salvos against the = natural family whilst embracing all sorts of perversions and anomalies whic= h encourage ever increasing rates of sexual abuse of our children. Even the= very notion of 'family' is under great attack.
 
Why is thi= s so?
 
The causes are many and varied but one of the main r= easons is our success as a society. With success comes affluence and with a= ffluence comes self-centredness and apathy. To embrace selfishness and narc= issism, we must reject marriage and family, because to accept marriage is t= o accept love and to accept love means to sacrifice self.  The same go= es for family. If you want to learn unselfishness, get married and have chi= ldren.
 
As a young man I remember people asking me, "How ma= ny children do you have?" When I replied, "Five," I could almost hear them = thinking, "What sort of idiot do we have here?" The jokes were many, "Must = be a Catholic, ha ha. Don't you have a TV? ho, ho." I'm not a Catholic, but= I do have a faith. I also have a TV, although I try not to watch it too mu= ch.
 
The attack against the family in recent years also ha= s an ideological basis. In 1848 Karl Marx and Frederick Engels released the= Communist Manifesto.
 
The over-arching purpose of communis= m could be argued as noble, that is, to produce a society that owned everyt= hing in common and where everyone was equal. From Marx & Engel's point of v= iew this could only come about by holding strictly to three basic tenets. 
1. The elimination of private property.
2. The elimina= tion of the family unit.
3. The elimination of the 'opiate of the peop= le' - religion.
 
In communism, it was all about the evoluti= onary process where the end justifies the means and so a fourth principle w= as rigorously adhered to, that is, the elimination of anyone who disagrees = with the first three tenets. Terry O'Neil writes in REPORT Newsmagazine, January 21, 2002.
 
 ...Com= munism gave rise to some of the most murderous regimes in the history of th= e world. As documented in The Black Book of Communism, an important work fi= rst published in France in 1997, Marxist regimes led to the death of at lea= st 100 million victims.

Communism has committed a multitude of c= rimes not only against individual human beings but also against world civil= ization and national cultures," writes Stephane Courtoris, one of six co-au= thors, all of whom describe themselves as former Communists or 'fellow trav= ellers' with Communism.


My own background as a student rev= olutionary and co-worker with communists is not something I am necessarily = proud of. I was idealistic. I thought utopia could be manufactured by man. = My dad used to say that communism was 'rule by the gun'. I should have list= ened to him. Jesus said, 'those who live by the sword die by the sword'. Th= e reality is that communism, as proposed by Karl Marx, was a monumental fai= lure. The Marxist goal to eliminate and destroy marriage and family has bee= n very successful. Justice Lionel Murphy, the inspiration behind the now di= scredited Family Law Act 1975, took great inspiration from the soviet model= of the state as father. The reality is that the state can never replace fa= ther or mother. Try as they will, the natural family will always be the fou= ndation for a just and equitable society.
 
Lovework=
 
I know you probably aren't a big reader, but do = yourself a favour and read Prof Allan Carlson's brilliant speech about the = natural family in this week's Special Feature, delivered at the recent Aust= ralian Family Association Conference in Perth, where I was also a contribut= or. It is important for us to know what we are up against.
 
But always remember that the greatest weapon you have in the battle for th= e family is love, because love is the greatest force in the universe.
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Yours for more love
Warwick Marsh
 
PS International = Men's Day will be celebrated on Wednesday 19th November 2008.
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Why not get some guys together for a barbecue or a quiet drink? Yo= u could even organise a community celebration.
 
The 19th No= vember 2008 is a special day of commemoration for Australians because it is= the day the HMAS Sydney went down with the loss of 645 men, the biggest si= ngle loss of life for Australia on any one day of World War II.
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The Australian celebration of International Men's Day is all about ho= nouring Aussie men: our sons, fathers and grandfathers, past and present, f= or all the sacrifices they have made and are still making today for their f= riends, family, children and nation.

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Warwick = Marsh  has been married to Alison for 32 years. He is t= he grandfather of two children and father of five children, four boys and o= ne girl, ranging in age from 27 years to 15 years.  Warwick is a = musician, songwriter, producer and public speaker who likes to think he can= still laugh at himself.
Laughter
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3D"Leotards"
 
 
 
I feel like my body has gotten totally out of shape,  so I got my= doctor's permission to  join a fitness club and start exercising.&nbs= p;

I decided to take an aerobics class for mature ladies. =

I bent, twisted, gyrated, jumped up and down, and perspired for= an hour. But,by the time I got my leotards on,  the class was over. <= br />
Grandfathers
3D"Fami=
 
In the break-up of the modern world
the family will stand out stark and strong
is it did before the begi= nning of history;
the only thing that can really remain a loyalty, because it is also a liberty.
 
G K Chesterton
Single Dads
 3D"Dad_Clock_Kid"
Most divorced dads want more time with childr= en
By Patricia Karvelas, Political correspondent
18 October 2008   The Australian

Three-quarters of d= ivorced fathers want to have custody of their children for at least 50 per = cent of the time, while as many as 36 per cent wish they could have their c= hildren all of the time.

Based on a survey of 300 child-support= payers, mostly fathers, and 300 payees, mostly mothers, the research shows= that some women also want less time with their children and are willing to= share the load.

According to the survey, conducted by the Chil= d Support Agency, 61 per cent of parents (mostly women) receiving money fro= m their former partners said they would ideally like to have their children= all of the time.

But significantly, 36 per cent were happy to = share their children 50 per cent of the time or more.

This is i= nconsistent with reality. At the moment, the overall main carer ratio is ab= out 87 per cent women and 13 per cent men. The figures reveal that a lot wo= uld be willing to have shared arrangements, but do not currently have them.=

Human Services Minister Joe Ludwig said it demonstrated that f= athers wanted more to do with their children.

"The striking cha= nges in the roles of men and women in Australian society are being reflecte= d in parenting after separation," Senator Ludwig said. "Most separated dads= are working hard to support their kids and the survey shows a large percen= tage want more to do in their children's lives."

The survey com= missioned by the Child Support Agency charts that there were strong, positi= ve changes in how parents viewed their relationship with their former partn= er, over a six-month period that included the introduction in July of a new= system for calculating child support payments.

Under the new s= ystem, the greater the proportion of time the paying parent has custody of = their child, the less their repayments are.

In August, 43 per c= ent of parents said they were very likely to deal with the other parent in = a businesslike way - up from 26 per cent in February.

"That rep= resents 250,000 mums and dads who now say they've improved the way they dea= l with each other," Senator Ludwig said.

The survey also shows = a dramatic drop in the number of parents saying they were very unlikely to = deal in a businesslike way with their former partner. That figure has falle= n from 45 per cent to 26 per cent over the same period.

"The ne= w child support system is designed to cement these social trends towards gr= eater shared parental responsibility," the senator said.

"Some = fathers are responding to the new child support system, which encourages a = greater proportion of shared care."

As the new scheme is bedded= down, Senator Ludwig expected these positive social trends to improve furt= her.


All You Nee= d is Love
 
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August 1942= (continued)
 
But at 8 A.M. there was a commotion. I heard = shouts, and saw people running every which way through camp. I caught up wi= th my brothers. Russian troops had liberated the camp! The gates swung open= . Everyone was running, so I did too. Amazingly, all of my brothers had sur= vived; I'm not sure how. But I knew that the girl with the apples had been = the key to my survival.
 
In a place where evil seemed trium= phant, one person's goodness had saved my life, had given me hope in a plac= e where there was none. My mother had promised to send me an angel, and the= angel had come.
 
Eventually I made my way to England where= I was sponsored by a Jewish charity, put up in a hostel with other boys wh= o had survived the Holocaust, and trained in electronics. Then I came to Am= erica, where my brother Sam had already moved. I served in the U. S. Army d= uring the Korean War, and returned to New York City after two years.
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By August 1957 I'd opened my own electronics repair shop. I was = starting to settle in.
 
One day, my friend Sid who I knew f= rom England called me.
'I've got a date. She's got a Polish friend. Le= t's double date.' A blind date? Nah, that wasn't for me.
 
B= ut Sid kept pestering me, and a few days later we headed up to the Bronx to= pick up his date and her friend Roma.
 
I had to admit, for= a blind date this wasn't so bad. Roma was a nurse at a Bronx hospital. She= was kind and smart. Beautiful, too, with swirling brown curls and green, a= lmond-shaped eyes that sparkled with life.
 
The four of us = drove out to Coney Island. Roma was easy to talk to, easy to be with. Turne= d out she was wary of blind dates too!
 
We were both just d= oing our friends a favor. We took a stroll on the boardwalk, enjoying the s= alty Atlantic breeze, and then had dinner by the shore. I couldn't remember= having a better time.
 
We piled back into Sid's car, Roma = and I sharing the backseat.
 
As European Jews who had survi= ved the war, we were aware that much had been left unsaid between us. She b= roached the subject, 'Where were you,' she asked softly, 'during the war?'<= br />'The camps,' I said. The terrible memories still vivid, the irreparabl= e loss. I had tried to forget. But you can never forget.
 
S= he nodded. 'My family was hiding on a farm in Germany , not far from Berlin= ,' she told me. 'My father knew a priest, and he got us Aryan papers.'
 
I imagined how she must have suffered too, fear, a constant co= mpanion. And yet here we were both survivors, in a new world. 'There was a = camp next to the farm.' Roma continued. 'I saw a boy there and I would thro= w him apples every day.'
 
What an amazing coincidence that = she had helped some other boy. 'What did he look like?' I asked.
'He w= as tall, skinny, and hungry. I must have seen him every day for six months.= '
My heart was racing. I couldn't believe it. This couldn't be.
'= Did he tell you one day not to come back because he was leaving Schlieben?'=
Roma looked at me in amazement.
'Yes!'
'That was me!'
I was ready to burst with joy and awe, flooded with emotions. I couldn't b= elieve it! My angel.
'I'm not letting you go.' I said to Roma. And in = the back of the car on that blind date, I proposed to her. I didn't want to= wait.
 
'You're crazy!' she said.. But she invited me to me= et her parents for Shabbat dinner the following week.
 
Ther= e was so much I looked forward to learning about Roma, but the most importa= nt things I always knew: her steadfastness, her goodness. For many months, = in the worst of circumstances, she had come to the fence and given me hope.= Now that I'd found her again, I could never let her go.
 
T= hat day, she said yes. And I kept my word. After nearly 50 years of marriag= e, two children and three grandchildren, I have never let her go.
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Herman Rosenblat of Miami Beach, Florida.
 This story is being made into a movie called 'The Fence'.
 
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Special Feature

3D"Family 
The Natural Family in an Unnatural World Perth, Western Australia
October 18, 2008
&nbs= p;By Allan Carlson
 
Part 1.
 
That the famil= y system of the Western nations is in crisis seems clear.  Historicall= y low birth rates, the rapid spread of cohabitation, the legal dismantling = of the institution of marriage, and climbing divorce are all signs of a fun= damental turning point in the social development of the West.
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Certain powerful voice= s among the once Christian nations actually welcome these changes, as signs= of liberation.  They favor the Swedish model of social democracy, whe= re the old socialist dream of dismantling the family has finally come true.=   They extol the leveling of the sexes, and the disappearance of poten= t labels such as "husband" and "wife," "mother" and "father."  They ce= lebrate the disappearance of marriage as a meaningful cultural and legal st= ructure with claims of its own on society and individuals.  They relis= h the elimination of free homes, once rich in function and loyalties, to be= replaced by governmental structures and the sole bond of the individual to= the state.  They seek the essential collectivization of children.
         
As economic = determinists of the closeted neo-Marxist sort, these same voices also claim= to be in the vanguard of history.  They believe that the material for= ces of post-industrial society require this evolution of a new form of livi= ng: a post-family model which reconciles the atomistic individual with the = total state.  In pursuing this ideology, they have willingly and openl= y sacrificed the natural order, building an unnatural world in its place...=
 
I believe that this can be done by focusing on the phrase= , "the natural family."  Words convey ideas...and ideals.  And we= are now engaged in a battle over the meaning of key words.  In May 19= 98, a Working Group of the World Congress of Families - including Australia= 's Peter Westmore - met in a Second Century B.C. room in the ancient city o= f Rome, to craft a definition of this term:
 
The natural f= amily is the fundamental social unit, inscribed in human nature, and center= ed around the voluntary union of a man and a woman in a lifelong covenant o= f marriage for the purposes of satisfying the longings of the human heart t= o give and receive love, welcoming and ensuring the full physical and emoti= onal development of children, sharing a home that serves as the center for = social, educational, economic, and spiritual life, building strong bonds am= ong the generations to pass on a way of life that has transcendent meaning,= and extending a hand of compassion to individuals and households whose cir= cumstances fall short of these ideals.      &= nbsp;    
 
In expanding on this phrase= , I want to highlight recognition of the natural family in five ways: = as part of the created order; as imprinted on our natures; as the source o= f bountiful joy; as the fountain of new life; and as the bulwark of liberty= .
 
First, PAR= T OF THE NATURAL CREATED ORDER
 
. . . W= hat does science teach?  The founders of modern anthropology also held= that marriage is an unchanging institution, universal in its basic element= s and common to all humanity.  As Edward Westermarck explained a centu= ry ago: "Among the lowest savages, as well as the most civilized races of m= en, we find the family consisting of parents and children, and the father a= s its protector."  Marriage bound this family system together, uniting= 'a regulated sexual relation' with 'economic obligations. [i]. . .
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Second, the natural family is = IMPRINTED ON OUR NATURE AS HUMANS
 
Whil= e the main current of Western philosophy and social science rushed toward M= arxist forms of understanding in the late 19th and 20th centuries, a dissen= ting school of sociology offered an alternate analysis, one focused on huma= nkind's familial nature.  The first of these dissenters was the French= academic, Frederic Le Play, active in the 1870's and 1880's.[ii]
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Le Play argued tha= t human behavior did not follow the theoretical schemes of his liberal and = socialist contempories.  Rather, he identified and sought to explain t= he close relation between what he called 'la famille soudre'-or the stem fa= mily-and historical examples of a stable, creative prosperity.  This s= tem family held the nuclear dyad of husband and wife at its core, yet also = embraced extended kin.  He argued that this family form, "by a remarka= ble favor of Providence has within its very structure the beneficient quali= ties of the individual and those of association." 
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Three great 20th Century so= ciologists based their efforts on the legacy of Le Play:  Carle Zimmer= man; Pitirim Sorokin; and Robert Nisbet.
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Carle Zimmerman, Professor of Sociology at = America's Harvard University, wrote Family and Civilization in 1947.  It traced the course of family structures throughout the g= lobe and across the millennia.  In describing the prospects for family= reconstruction, Zimmerman embraced Le Play's concept of the stem family, r= e-labelling it the domestic family.
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Importantly, Zimmerman insisted that this domest= ic family model could be found "among all people who combine the benefits o= f agriculture, industry, and settled life with the commonsense idea of defe= nding their private life from the domination of legislators, from the invas= ion of bureaucrats, and from the exaggerations of the manufacturing regime.= "
         
Sorokin= was born and educated in Russia, but expelled by the Bolsheviks in 1921, S= orokin shared with Zimmerman a common debt to Le Play, accepting his concep= t of the stem family as the most stable, creative, and natural social form.=   In his book, The Crisis of Our Age, Sorokin emphasi= zed the tie of mounting social turmoil to shrinking family size and the atr= ophy of family functions, most notably education.  The only feasible c= ourse was to launch a new cultural order.  As he put it: 
A= transformation of the forms of social relationship, by replacing the prese= nt compulsory and contractual relationships with purer and more godly famil= istic relationships, is the order of the day....Not only are they the noble= st of all relationships, but under the circumstances there is no way out of= the present triumph of barbarian force but through the realm of familistic= relationships. 
 
The third great sociologist in this= tradition was Robert Nisbet, whom I counted as a friend and mentor.  = He is best known as the author of the books, The Quest for= Community and The Twilight of Authority.= [iii]  In the latter volume, published in 1975, Nisbet offered a passa= ge of profound importance.  "It should be obvious," he says, "that fam= ily, not the individual, is the real molecule of society, the key link of t= he social chain of being.  It is inconceivable to me that either intel= lectual growth or social order or the roots of liberty can possibly be main= tained among a people unless the kinship tie is strong and has both functio= nal significance and symbolic authority."[iv]
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(To be continued)
 
Due= to space restrictions Prof Carlson's article has been printed, in part, ov= er two weeks.
Please email info@fatherhood.org.au  to request a copy of the = full article.
 
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Allan Carlson is P= resident of The Howard Center for Family, Religion & Society and Internatio= nal Secretary of The World Congress of Families.  He also currently se= rves as Visiting Distinguished Professor of Political Science and History a= t Hillsdale College, in Michiga
[i]   Edward Westermarck, T= he History of Human Marriage: 5th Edition (London: Macmillan, 1925): 26-37,= 69-72.
[ii]   For the seminal work, see: Pierre Guillaume a= nd Frederic LePlay, Le Reform Sociale, Vol. 1, Book 3 (Tours: A Mameetfils,= 1887): chapters 24-30.
[iii]   Robert Nisbet, Quest for Com= munity: A Study in the Ethics of Order & Freedom (San Francisco: Institute = for Contemporary Studies, 1990 [1953]); and Robert Nisbet, Twilight of Auth= ority (New York: Oxford University Press, 1975).
[iv]   Ibid= ., p. 260.
News & Info
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FRIGHTENED students, teachers and principals are reporting more than 1= 2 assaults a week in Victoria's state schools.

Education Depart= ment records show 1227 allegations of assault involving state school studen= ts and staff have been filed in just over two school years. A further 247 s= ex abuse cases were alleged.
 
 
Almost 37 per cent of sole parent families and 27 per cent of families= with one breadwinner were finding it difficult to manage.
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 3D"Movember
 
 3D"Movember_2"
 
The Movember Foundation (ABN 48 894 537 905) is a national, not= for profit, charitable organisation that runs the Movember event each year= .
Movember is a registered charity that has Deductible Gift Receipt, = GST Concession and Income Tax Exemption status approved by the Australian T= ax Office.
The Movember event raises awareness around men's health iss= ues and funds for carefully selected beneficiary partners that are also cha= ritable organisations, with a focus on prostate cancer and depression in me= n.

Since its inception as a formal charity in 2004 Movember has = raised over $30 million globally, significantly increased awareness of pros= tate cancer and depression in the community, and is continuously working to= change the attitude men have about their health.  

Movembe= r's current beneficiary partners in Australia are:

The Prostate= Cancer Foundation of Australia (PCFA) whose aim is to reduce the impact of= prostate cancer on Australian men, their partners, their families and the = community. The money raised by Movember is used by the PCFA to:
Fund r= esearch into the causes, detection, diagnosis and improved treatment of pro= state cancer. Provide information, support and counseling to those affected= by prostate cancer. Raise community awareness of the incidence of prostate= cancer, thereby encouraging earlier detection and more effective treatment= of the disease. beyondblue: the national depression initiative whose = aim is to increase the communities awareness of depression and address the = associated stigma of living with depression. The money raised by Movember i= s dedicated to improving men's health in rural, remote, regional and metro = areas across Australia by supporting men's health projects. 
beyo= ndblue's five priorities: 
Increased community awareness of depr= ession, anxiety and related substance misuse disorders and addressing assoc= iated stigma. Providing men living with depression and their carers with in= formation on the illness and effective treatment options and promoting thei= r needs and experiences with policy makers and healthcare service providers= . Developing depression prevention and early intervention programs. Improvi= ng training and support for GP's and other healthcare professionals on depr= ession. Initiating and supporting depression-related research.  <= br />
 
  
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3D"Fatherhood
Media = Release
 
International Men's Day - = 19th November 2008
 
International Men's Day will h= ave its inaugural celebration in Australia on 19th November 2008.
 
Russian President, Mikhail Gorbachev, first calle= d for an international day to celebrate men in 1999 at the United = Nations in Vienna. International Men's Day is celebrated on many different = dates around the world with varying degrees of success.
 
To= help standardize International Men's Day and increase its success the Indi= an 'Save the Family Foundation' launched an inter= national campaign and called for the celebration of  International Men's Day on 19th= November along with Pakistan, Trinidad and Tobago.
 
Austra= lia is joining with India, which has the second largest male population in = the world, to call other countries around the world to make 19th November 2= 008  a day to honour men for the contribution they make to their famil= y, friends, work, community and nation.
 
Warwick Marsh, fr= om the Dads4Kids Fatherhood Foundation said, "We contacted the leaders of t= he Save the Family Foundation in India, the leading advocates for Internati= onal Men's Day, before sharing the vision with several leaders in the Austr= alian men and father's movement at the National Shared Parenting Conferenc= e in Gosford, NSW on 14th June 2008. The response in Australia for = an International Men's Day has been really positive. Already in Au= stralia we have watched the phenomenal expansion of Movember, which promotes me= n's health, so it's great to see all these things happening for men in the = month of November. Movember is exploding in influence around the world." 
Mr Marsh continued, "The 19th November is historically a day of great significance for every Australian. In 1941 it was the day that the HMAS Sydney II&nbs= p; was lost. The 19th November 2008 commemorates the = loss of 645 men when the HMAS Sydney sank off the coas= t of Western Australia, the greatest  loss of men= 's lives on any one day by Australian forces in World War II."
 <= br />"The theme for the International Men's Day 2008 is 'Honour an= d Sacrifice'. This commemorates what our Aussie men, sons, fathers and gran= dfathers, both past and present, have sacrificed for their families, commun= ities and nation," Mr Marsh said.
 
"We call on othe= r countries to join in solidarity to celebrate the positive contribution th= at men make to the world on International Men's Day, Wednesday 19th Novembe= r 2008."
 
For more information please contact:
Warwick Marsh
Dads4Kids
Fatherhood Foundation
0418 225212<= br />02 4272 6677
info@fatherhood.org.au
= www.fatherhood.org.au
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Dads4Kids
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Fatherhood Foundation is asking Australians to help Dads4K= ids with their ideas on how to solve the problems that Aus= tralian children face. Dads4Kids is an initiative of the Fatherhood Foundat= ion which is a harm prevention charity. Find out more information or enter = the Dads4Kids Competition.    
View Community Service A= nnouncements at:http://www.dads4kids.= org.au/Media     
 
 
Dear Dads4Kids
 
I have never heard of you organisation until I saw th= e add on the tele today. What a great thing that you are trying to achieve,= the sad truth is that not all kids will get a great start, but all we can = do is try. I would like to get more info and more involved in this as I fee= l that's the least we can do for our children, not only our son, but maybe = help some that are not so fortunate to have a family.
 
Chri= s
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I'd like to say I appr= eciate the good intention of the Fatherhood Foundation but I'm concerned by= your choice of Matthew Hayden as the person to deliver your message. In fa= ct I feel insulted by the image of someone who spends at best a total of fo= ur months a year at home with his family telling me how important it is to = spend time with my children. My wife and I have made a choice to earn less = income to be able to spend every day with our kids and to be available for = sport every weekend.
 
Matthew Hayden has chosen an extreme= ly well paid profession that sees him spending most nights each year at a h= otel bar with his work mates usually in another country. The Foundation mus= t believe most dads are totally stupid not to see the hypocrisy there. My s= on and I are cricket fans and we spent a lot of time each week with cricket= training and games but I find your ads annoying!
 
Thanks = for your time,
Mark

Dad's Prayer

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Dear God
 
Help me embrace the sacrifice
found in = family life.
To know love
I must first learn sacrifice.
I re= ally don't like the idea
so hopefully Allan Carlson is right -
t= hat bountiful joy is available on the other side.
Just help me get the= re
without a breakdown!
 
    
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Help Us!

The Fatherhood Foundation is a Harm Pre= vention Charity.
Fatherlessness and inadequate fathering has been pro= ven to be a source of harm. The Fatherhood Foundation helps children b= y promoting excellence  in fathering. Excellent fathers are in word an= d deed: responsible, involved, protective, loving and committed to the well= -being of their children and their children's mother.

 

If you would like to give financially t= o the Fatherhood Foundation Public Fund and receive tax deductibility:

 

Fatherhood Found= ation Public Fund
(Name, address and amount details must be = emailed for a receipt for tax deductibility)

 Westpac Branch Wollongong      &nb= sp;            =   DONATE ONLINE

BSB: 032 695
A/C: 25-5558
 

Or mail cheque and address details to:<= br />PO Box 542
UNANDERRA  NSW&nbs= p; 2526
AUSTRALIA

 

The Fatherhood Foundation Public Fund&n= bsp; is a public fund listed on the Register of Harm Prevention Charities u= nder Subdivision 30_EA of the Income Tax Assessment Act 1997.=

 

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