Received: from evaki.its.uow.edu.au (130.130.68.32) by staffmail.uow.edu.au (10.5.102.13) with Microsoft SMTP Server id 8.1.336.0; Sun, 1 Feb 2009 10:09:53 +1100 Received: from febris-nat.its.uow.edu.au ([130.130.68.210] helo=febris.its.uow.edu.au) by evaki.its.uow.edu.au with esmtp (Exim 4.69) (envelope-from ) id 1LTOyG-0006dV-RY for blane@uow.edu.au; Sun, 01 Feb 2009 10:09:52 +1100 Received: from c3.confirmedcc.com (c3.confirmedcc.com [64.95.77.164]) by febris.its.uow.edu.au (MOS 3.10.3-GA) with ESMTP id QOL43895; Sun, 1 Feb 2009 10:09:49 +1100 (EST) Received: from p2-ws508.ad.prodcc.net (unknown [10.252.0.101]) by c3.confirmedcc.com (Postfix) with ESMTP id 7DD3918607C8 for ; Sat, 31 Jan 2009 17:50:41 -0500 (EST) From: Fatherhood Foundation To: Brian Lane Date: Sun, 1 Feb 2009 09:52:39 +1100 Subject: What Children Want Thread-Topic: What Children Want Thread-Index: AcmD+QZj+ds7HN/+TOOxYUwVuzgZXQ== Message-ID: <1102426317498.1101938345415.1211.8.100175019@scheduler> List-Unsubscribe: http://visitor.constantcontact.com/d.jsp?p=un&v=001jm8CFGIzLJHYg-gJRLc-3d90mBLDU8ykOP370-9s9SdpXYTJVXwM4g== Reply-To: "info@fathersonline.org" Accept-Language: en-AU, en-US Content-Language: en-US X-MS-Exchange-Organization-AuthAs: Anonymous X-MS-Exchange-Organization-AuthSource: excasht03.ad.uow.edu.au X-MS-Has-Attach: X-MS-TNEF-Correlator: x-junkmail-status: score=10/49, host=febris.its.uow.edu.au x-junkmail-sd-raw: score=unknown, refid=str=0001.0A090207.4984DA40.01A2:SCFMA772204,ss=1,fgs=0, ip=64.95.77.164, so=2008-09-22 23:22:13, dmn=5.7.1/2008-09-02, mode=single engine x-junkmail-iwf: false x-return-path-hint: ESC1102426317498_1101938345415_1211@in.confirmedcc.com x-roving-id: 1101938345415.1211 x-lumos-senderid: 1101938345415 x-roving-campaignid: 1102426317498 x-roving-streamid: 0 Content-Type: multipart/alternative; boundary="_000_1102426317498110193834541512118100175019scheduler_" MIME-Version: 1.0 --_000_1102426317498110193834541512118100175019scheduler_ Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/526.gif?a=3D1= 102426317498] 2nd Febuary 2009 Inspiring Fathers Encouraging Families Issue 337 [http://img.constantcontact.com/ui/stock1/3m9q9k8q.jpg] What Children Want Dear Brian, Welcome to the Fatherhood Foundation newsletter and email information servi= ce for Fathers and Families as we present What Children Want In This Issue Frontline...Ban Divorce Laughter..What did you say! Grandfathers...Commitment produces character Single Dads...My Dad All You Need is Love..Arguing Helps Marriage?? Special Feature...My Story News & Info..Parents Links Dad's Prayer..Help me be unmade Next Week Celebrating Marriage Week [http://img.constantcontact.com/ui/images1/s.gif] Join our Mailing List! [http://img.constantcontact.com/ui/images1/ftf_btn_1.gif] Quick Links Fatherhood Foundation Dads in Distress Men to Men Malachi Global Marriage com au Mannet Living Waters Care for the Family - UK Wild at Heart CSA Adverts Thought of the Week [http://img.constantcontact.com/ui/images1/s.gif] [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/595.jpg?a=3D1= 102426317498]One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love. Sophocles Frontline [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/594.jpg?a=3D= 1102426317498] 'What Children Want Most is a Ban on Divorce, Says Poll' was the headline in a recent m= ajor UK paper. The poll question was: "What rules would you make if you rul= ed the world as King or Queen?" Ban Divorce was the number one request. Nationwide research of children und= er 10 years of age was carried out by Luton First, sponsors and organizers = of the fourth annual National Kids Day. Patricia Murchie of Luton First said, "This particular age group = has some very clear ideas on how to change the world" - 'out of the mouth o= f babes and infants' is an apt saying from the greatest book of wisdom ever= written. The sex, drugs, rock and roll generation, of which I am a part, demanded no= -fault-divorce. The concept behind no-fault-divorce was to make divorce eas= ier, but divorce is never easy for our children. Our story in Special Featu= re by Tony Polambi, a child of divorce himself is well worth the read. My own story illustrates the heartache. Two wonderful parents who just coul= dn't seem to get along. In todays easy divorce culture they would have gott= en divorced. I thank God that they didn't. My brother and I always seemed to be moving house and school. By the time I= reached high school I had been to 13 different schools - way too many chan= ges for any child. I can remember the Boys in Blue coming to our home to adjudicate the fights= . I can remember being called into the Principals office at Milsons Point P= ublic School, Nth Sydney when I was 10 with my eight year old brother. My m= um was there, along with a man from the Child Welfare Department. He inform= ed us that we were going to be put in a boys home because of our parents pe= rilous relationship. I began to cry. My brother began to cry because we did= n't want to be separated from our dad. Maybe this had happened before when = we were much younger but we were powerless to object. Twice before my mum h= ad taken us to 'visit our Granny' in Scotland. Two years is a long time to = visit. Thank God our lungs were now well developed and we were able to voice our o= bjections. After a couple of hours of crying they relented in their intenti= ons and allowed us to stay with Dad. That meant that we could see Mum too w= hen she came home for a few days every fortnight. I am quite convinced that my brother and I might never have seen our Dad ag= ain had we not protested so vehemently. These days, under the current anti-= male family law and child welfare regime, I can guarantee we would never ha= ve seen him again. Growing up is hard enough without having to cope with fa= mily friction. I think that the children of UK need to be listened to because they are ech= oing what children all over the world are wanting to say if given the voice= . And they are not the only ones. Bill Muehlenberg in his incisive article = in Quadrant, 'The War Against our Children' puts it this way: Again, the social science data on this is as clear as it is overwhelming. A= llow me to cite just two pieces of evidence. Bryan Rodgers of the Australia= n National University has been extensively studying how children suffer as = a result of parental divorce. Says Rodgers: "Australian studies with adequate samples have shown parental divorce to be= a risk factor for a wide range of social and psychological problems in ado= lescence and adulthood, including poor academic achievement, low self-estee= m, psychological distress, delinquency and recidivism, substance use and ab= use, sexual precocity, adult criminal offending, depression, and suicidal b= ehaviour." He concludes: "There is no scientific justification for disregarding the pu= blic health significance of marital dissolution in Australia, especially wi= th respect to mental health." Professor David Popenoe of Rutgers University puts it this way: "In three d= ecades of work as a social scientist, I know of few other bodies of data in= which the weight of evidence is so decisively on one side of the issue: on= the whole, for children, two-parent families are preferable to single-pare= nt families and step-families. If our prevailing views on family structure = hinged solely on scholarly evidence, the current debate would never have ar= isen in the first place." What then is the answer? The people from Luton First have a penchant for po= lls. The song title, 'All You Need is Love' by the Beatles was voted the gr= eatest words of all time. Maybe it's time to put those words into practice. Lovework It is so easy to sing about love or even to talk about it. Eva Burrow's wor= ds ring true, "In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cem= ent that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony." That so= rt of harmony requires effort but it is not beyond our reach. Yours for more harmony Warwick Marsh P.S. International Marriage Week = runs from 7-14 February 2009, finishing on Valentine's Day. The best way to= ban divorce is to prevent it. The best way to prevent it is to work hard a= t being a great lover. Next week we aim to give you a few tips on how to ke= ep the love fire's burning. ____________________________________________________________________ Warwick Marsh has been married to Alison for 33 years. He is the grandfath= er of two children and father of five children, four boys and one girl, ran= ging in age from 28 years to 16 years. Warwick is a musician, songwriter, = producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himsel= f. Laughter [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/590.jpg?a=3D1= 102426317498] Couple in their nineties are both having problems remembering= things. During a checkup, the doctor tells them that they're physically ok= ay, but they might want to start writing things down to help them remember.= Later that night, while watching TV, the old man gets up from his chair. '= Want anything while I'm in the kitchen?' he asks. 'Will you get me a bowl of ice cream?' 'Sure.' 'Don't you think you should write it down so you can remember it?' she asks= . 'No, I can remember it.' 'Well, I'd like some strawberries on top, too. Maybe you should write it do= wn, so's not to forget it?' He says, 'I can remember that You want a bowl of ice cream with strawberrie= s.' 'I'd also like whipped cream. I'm certain you'll forget that, write it down= ?' she asks. Irritated, he says, 'I don't need to write it down, I can remember it! Ice = cream with strawberries and whipped cream - I got it, for goodness sake!' Then he toddles into the kitchen. After about 20 minutes, The old man retur= ns from the kitchen and hands his wife a plate of bacon and eggs. She stare= s at the plate for a moment. 'Where's my toast?' Grandfathers [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/591.jpg?a=3D1= 102426317498]Commitment in the face of conflict produces character. Unknown Single Dads My Dad[http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/592.jpg= ?a=3D1102426317498] By Tony Miller Last weekend was my fathers 90th birthday; my son came up from Sydney with = my daughter. He is 34 now but in conversation more like an 18 year old. The= H monkey is still firmly attached to his back. Although my father told me = later that my son had come over, gave both he and mum a hug and whispered i= n their ears "I've nearly beat it Nan and pop, I've nearly beat it". He didn't look as though he had "beat it". He is a stick figure, gaunt and = lifeless. The only realisation that he is alive is the constant twitching o= f his body. He finds it hard to sit still and the constant pouring of beer = down his throat was a queue that he was self medicating, trying to keep a l= id on it, until the next hit. We talked but not much, just general things. I didn't want to bring up the = big H issue, so never mentioned it. My eyes had already revealed that he ha= d a taste that day. Maybe it was something else I told myself, maybe it was= n't. Regardless the main thing was He was there! He made the effort and it = was an extraordinary effort. He held his anger in which I know and have wit= nessed is bottled inside this thin, gaunt looking shadow of his former self= . I was proud of him. I was once one of those dads peering through the wire fence surrounding his= son's school; I was spotted and asked to move on. I explained who I was an= d that I just wanted to catch a glimpse of my little boy who I hadn't seen = for many years. I was taken to the principal's office and after explaining = the circumstances was told that I was listed to have no contact. It was man= y years ago but I remember it as yesterday. After breaking down in front of him, the principal took pity on me and let = me peer through the blinds of his office. He had to point him out to me bec= ause I, his father, couldn't recognise my own son. I left quietly, humbly t= hanking him for his kindness and in tears. My boy grew up not knowing his dad and now I am still peering through the f= ence unable to break through, only now it's not wire, its heroin addiction. During the mandatory speeches my father got up and made his speech at the e= nd. He spoke of many years ago and of a couple who were very good friends h= e had known. He spoke of them with much love and continued his story, as it= turned out he said the woman gave birth to a son and not long after she di= ed from the complications of child birth and then not long after that the c= hild's father also died in a car accident, leaving the child an orphan. Tha= t child we adopted, his name is Tony and he is sitting right there he said = pointing to me. I was already emotional but even more so now. Earlier I had been asked if I= wanted to make a speech, I declined - I was too emotional I rationalised. = On the long drive back home the next day I regretted that decision. I had w= ritten a speech in my head if given the opportunity, before I went down to = the party. Now I had blown it, although as I thought about the words I woul= d cry, so I doubt that I would have been able to say what I wanted to say w= ithout being a bit of a mess. Yet maybe I should of anyway. Anyway I have decided to write it here for all to read and send my dad a co= py. Here it is: Most of you here know what I do for a living. I am the founder of a group c= alled dads in distress and what we do is simply help blokes who are struggl= ing with life keep alive. It's often called suicide intervention although I= call it mateship. Just the other night prior to coming here I received a call from a bloke wh= o was doing it tough. In fact I received a number of calls from him leading= into the early hours of the morning. This bloke had decided life was too t= ough and that it was time to call it a day. Over the hours I eventually was= able to talk this bloke down. Thank goodness I had been given an opportuni= ty to intervene. Towards the end of our last call and with this bloke feeli= ng in a better place he asked me how do I do what I do. I thought about tha= t question for a minute and then answered him this, in which right now I wo= uld like to address to my father who is sitting just over there. Well mate you see I was lucky enough to be given a good start in life and i= t was all due to one man, my dad. There were 4 major things my dad taught m= e. Empathy, Love and Compassion, and Faith. My dad has his heart filled with all those things. I have witnessed him in = action, he has shown empathy and love and compassion to many who can attest= to that, but the biggest thing he gave me was Faith. Faith in God, Faith i= n others, Faith in myself and Faith that no matter what I do, he will alway= s be there, and he always has. Just as I am for you, I told him, and just a= s you need to be there for your children. He sobbed a little and thanked me= profusely then hung up with a "Thanks Mate". After I hung up, I thought about you again Dad and how lucky in life that I= had you as my dad and I wanted to tell you this story and say simply, "Tha= nks Mate" . . . And to let you know that because of what you gave me and I = am able to pass to others, you have saved many lives . . .including mine. I= love you mate . . . As I drove back to Coffs Harbour the next day I thought a lot about the pr= evious days events, about my dad, about my son, about all my kids and about= my life. Being a father especially a non-custodial father is a tough call = and often you don't get the opportunity to pass on life lessons, instead th= ey seem passed to you. I pulled into the driveway at home greeted by two li= ttle smiling faces, cuddles and "Hi Dad". That hasn't happened to me in a l= ong time and feels pretty strange, but I guess that's another story . . . The Rev.David B. Smith wrote in his recent poignant article about the overd= ose of his daughter-The Pain of non-custodial fatherhood- "Being a father doesn't necessarily mean sitting alongside my girl in the s= ame boat, doing all the rowing, but it does mean being somewhere in an adjo= ining boat, ready to dive in if I am needed. Being a non-custodial father, I can't be in the same boat. My time with my = girl is a series of stolen moments-moments that seem to have been growing s= horter and less intimate over the last few years, as she makes her transiti= on towards adulthood." How right he is . . . Tony Miller dads in distress tmiller@nor.com.au All You Need is Love [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/596.jpg?a=3D1= 102426317498] A row a day helps you work, rest and stay married Daily tiffs may be the key to a long and happy marriage. Fiona McCade The Sunday Times (London) January 18, 2009 When does arguing every day become the recipe for a happy marriage? When it= keeps a couple together for 75 years, apparently. Francis and May Smith, S= cotland's longest-married couple, have just celebrated three-quarters of a = century of connubial bliss and they put the longevity of their relationship= down to losing their tempers with each other on a daily basis - even argui= ng more now than they did as newly-weds. But they claim this means there's = never a dull moment and I believe them. Especially because Britain's longes= t-married couple - still in love after nearly 81 years - also cite having '= a small argument every day' as being integral to their success. This seems perfectly logical to me. Disagreement equals passionate communic= ation. It clears the air. If your beloved is still leaving wet towels on th= e bathroom floor after 75 years, it's no good festering about it. Get it ou= t in the open, then kiss and make up. Pick your fights wisely, however. Just talking about the Smiths caused a co= mpletely pointless row in the McCade household. Instead of agreeing with me= when I declared, "Arguing obviously helps a marriage", my husband irritati= ngly replied: "I'm loath to disagree with you, because you hate being wrong= ." Which forced me to say: "Of course I hate it if you say I'm wrong when I'm right." He asked: "Do you hate that more than actually being wrong? Which is worse,= being wrong, or being told you're wrong when you're right?" To which I replied: "Shut up, shut up, shut up, you obnoxious git." Seventy-five years. How the hell have they managed it? Maybe the real secre= t to a good marriage is not the arguing, but the method of reconciliation. = The Smiths never let the sun go down on a quarrel, but I bet Mr Smith has l= earnt that so long as he always ends any blistering row with the words, "Yo= u're right, love, I'm sorry", all will be well. Husbands, take note. _________________________ Editor's Note: Warwick Marsh does not agree with arguing. I think he finds = it very hurtful due to his upbringing. However, disagreements in a marriage= are inevitable. As Diane Sollee of Smartmarriages says: "It's not the disa= greements, but how you handle them that matters. And, you have to handle th= em, avoiding disagreements is not the answer." Alison Marsh Special Feature [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/593.jpg?a=3D1= 102426317498] My name is Tony Palombi and yes, it's a good Italian name. I was born in Ad= elaide to Italian migrants. My childhood was like the words of Winston Chur= chill when he said, "We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the l= anding grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall f= ight in the hills." It sounded exactly like my home growing up. My mother was married to my father by arrangement by their parents in Italy= . My father was already in Australia finding work, so mum had the wedding s= ervice in Sezze, Italy. The service was in a Roman Catholic Church with the= family priest, an uncle who stood proxy, and all the family. They even had= a reception afterwards. Then mum left Italy and settled in Australia in th= e 50's with her new husband. Finding a home in Adelaide, They had a family quickly. Over the next 12 yea= rs of marriage, mum gave birth to six children. Four girls, two boys, me be= ing number 5. My brother was born legally blind, so this added to the chall= enge. I'm not too sure of the reasons, but my father was violent towards my mothe= r. By the age of 3 years old I was seeing my mum getting beaten. Seeing an= d hearing them fighting all the time. She put up with it for 12 years. He w= as ordered by the law to leave. He had a restraining order put on him. He c= ame back and almost like a last ditched effort, smashed all of our windows = in the house, then it went quiet. I grew up waiting for the day for him to return. My older brother and I mad= e a decision to protect mum, so we even stored up rocks and stones and wait= ed, and waited. But he never returned. I don't know what hurt more, him attacking, or him not even showing up. Wha= tever the reasons, I was rejected. I grew up hating my dad. I learnt about = fathers by looking over the fence. Watching them play with their sons with= new toys. My friends would go away on holidays with their dads, and me, we= ll I stayed home. We grew up poor, so I remembered neighbours helping us out, sometimes food = packages and people taking us to those annual Christmas parties with Santa = and fire engines. At the same time I grew up with a hard working mum who lo= ved us and provided us with a good home, great Italian cooking and friends= around. It was as normal as could be. When I turned 11, my mother had to go overseas to Italy, so I stayed at St= Johns Boy's home for what was meant to be three months. I liked it, so I w= hen mum came back, I said I wanted to continue and stayed for 5 years. Sch= ool never agreed with me so I dropped out when I was 16. I took a job as a = window cleaner and worked in the cleaning industry until 1991. Deep within = me though, I knew I was a broken man. I was aware that my social life and w= ork, family and friends could only satisfy me so much. By the age of 28 I was sad & miserable . You see, my greatest desire in my= life was to have a family. Children of my own and to have a happy home. Bu= t my history scared me off, thinking that I would reflect my father and it = wouldn't last. I moved to Melbourne and met my wife Annette. That's when things changed. = I fell in love and proposed. She said, Yes! And we married in July1991. Ann= ette's father was a minister and he talked with me about Jesus. I renewed m= y faith, gave my life to Christ on March 11, 1991. I also gave him my past = and my fears. My biggest fear was the thought of becoming a father, especially when I nev= er had the experience of one. Another fear was that I would take on my dad= 's personality and I would walk the same path. Well, good to say, none of t= hose fears, as most things we fear, never eventuated. I also let go of my a= nger towards my dad and forgave him. Since being married, my wife and I have raised four children, who work with= us in the ministry. The ministry means, we help people in our community. My kids have been given the gift of music, so we tour them around to places= and produce their music. It' a young band, and I always get a smile as I w= atch them , thinking of the things that I was doing when I was their age. Today, as I write this article, my wife and I are passionate parents who wa= nt to do everything we can to help other families. Currently we run program= s in schools that help kids with grief and loss as a result of separation, = divorce or death. We get to talk with kids and I can relate to their situat= ions. If you want to see more of what we do, visit www.godmadefamous.com Tony Palombi godmadefamous@mac.com News & Info Parent Links[http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/3= 87.jpg?a=3D1102426317498] Secret Handouts to Parents SCHOOL principals in New South Wales are handing out millions of dollars in= "mercy payments" to financially-strapped families unable to meet soaring e= ducation expenses. _______________________________________________ Letters Editors Note; The Editorial team at the Fatherhood Foundation have a policy= to always look for the good in people. New USA President Barak Obama would= seem to be a very pro family man in many respects and for this we honour h= im. It is really sad to hear the news that Barack Obama has just signed int= o law Overseas financial aid to kill unborn children. We share our readers= deep concern about this tragic news. Dear Fatherhood Foundation Regarding the letter to his children featured in last week's newsletter. Go= od thing Obama decided against aborting his daughters, unlike the abortion = funding bill he just signed. One wonders if his speechwriter wrote this too? kind rgds Steve Dear Fatherhood Foundation I just had to send this email to you in response to the story you put in th= e newsletter about Barrack Obama's letter to his two daughters. Although what he said was commendable, I just can't help but think it was n= ot all that sincere. Many people see this man as some kind of Messiah or Rescuer and yet some se= e him an Anti-Christ. If one looks at many other things he has said he wil= l do and also the calibre of the people he has surrounded himself with, the= n maybe the title of Anti-Christ would be more fitting. I can only see this man as being the last shot to be fired by the radical f= eminists in the US at fathers and family in their quest to finally see the = nuclear family totally destroyed and the word 'father' stricken from all fo= rms of documentation and the social psyche. Biden is an enemy of fathers with his evil VAWA legislation, which has also= seen women who desperately need protection, abandoned by the govt. The sa= me thing happens here in Australia with violence orders. The vast majority= of orders are vexatious claims made by nasty ex wives/partners who are onl= y out to use the law to further their abuse against their husbands/partners= . Then the real female victims of domestic violence are left without any h= elp at all, until they are finally put in hospital or God forbid they are k= illed. Domestic violence laws were deliberately put in place to give divor= cing women the upper hand in their quest for domination over their ex. The= re was never any intention that these laws would be of any serious effect w= ith regard protecting innocent women from a male or female abuser. In fact, why is there no facility to protect men from evil abusive women, w= hen we know for a fact that women are much more abusive than men and kill m= any more men than men kill women? Also some time ago Obama stated he would sign the freedom of choice legisla= tion that would see wholesale abortions at any stage of pregnancy being mad= e legal and permitted throughout the US. This will account for the murders= of many millions of innocent children. Yes, CHILDREN, not foetuses' like = the evil feminists and medical staff likes to call them. We have the same evil being spread here in Australia now; where here in Vic= they recently pushed through legislation to force doctors to refer women t= o abortion doctors if they did not want to commit the murder themselves. T= his of course is a direct attack on the Catholic Hospitals to force them to= obey their new One World masters/mistresses. This will definitely spread throughout the country and will eventually see = the closing of Catholic Hospitals. Obama is simply yet another Freemason puppet who is there to do the bidding= of the iluminati as they set about their quest for world domination. They= are currently in the process of destroying the US economy, so they can int= roduce their evil one world govt and then microchip every human on this ear= th. Except for themselves and their families that is! We are indeed living in the times of the Great Tribulation and the destruct= ion of the world as we know it is almost complete. The only positive thing we can look forward to is the fact that all people = born in this era are the luckiest in human history, because The Lord has bl= essed all of us with so much and will instantly pardon all our sins for cho= osing to remain faithful to him, no matter what we have done. If we choose= to remain of the world and follow this one world govt, then we will surely= suffer for eternity in hell. However, when these evil people try to micro= chip us and if we refuse, we will then be taken to extermination camps that= have now been set up and completed in every country around the world, wher= e we will be dealt with as the Jews were during the Holocaust. But we will= then be welcomed by God as Saints for remaining faithful to Him. Thankyou for giving me this opportunity to pass on my opinion on this issue= ! Peter Gregory gregory1@westnet.com.au Dad's Prayer [http://origin.ih.constantcontact.com/fs007/1101938345415/img/597.jpg?a=3D1= 102426317498] Dear God It is so sad when Mum & Dad just can't get along anymore. It is my fault? Why is this happening? You both loved me enough to make me! Now you seem to want to unmake me! If I was made by two, how can I be unmade? Only God can heal my 'unmadeness' As only He is the author of love. Help Us! [http://img.constantcontact.com/ui/images1/s.gif]The Fatherhood Foundation = is a Harm Prevention Charity. Fatherlessness and inadequate fathering has been proven to be a source of h= arm. The Fatherhood Foundation helps children by promoting excellence in f= athering. Excellent fathers are in word and deed: responsible, involved, pr= otective, loving and committed to the well-being of their children and thei= r children's mother. 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What Children Want
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Dear Brian,
Welcome to the Fatherhood Foundation newsletter and email information = service for Fathers and Families as we present What Children Want
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In This Issue
Frontline...Ban Divorce
Laughter..What did you say!
Grandfathers...Commitment produces character
Single Dads...My Dad
All You Need is Love..Arguing Helps Marriage??
Special Feature...My Story
News & Info..Parents Links
Dad's Prayer..Help me be unmade
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Frontline
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'What Children Want Most is a Ban on Divorce, Says Poll'= was the headline in a recent major UK paper. The poll question was: "W= hat rules would you make if you ruled the world as King or Queen?"
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Ban Divorce was the number one request. Nationwide research of chi= ldren under 10 years of age was carried out by Luton First, sponsors and or= ganizers of the fourth annual National Kids D= ay. Patricia Murchie of Luton First said, "This particular age group ha= s some very clear ideas on how to change the world" - 'out of the mouth of = babes and infants' is an apt saying from the greatest book of wisdom ever w= ritten.
 
The sex, drugs, rock and roll generation, of which= I am a part, demanded no-fault-divorce. The concept behind no-fault-divorc= e was to make divorce easier, but divorce is never easy for our children. O= ur story in Special Feature by Tony Polambi, a child of divorce himself is = well worth the read.
 
My own story illustrates the heartac= he. Two wonderful parents who just couldn't seem to get along. In todays ea= sy divorce culture they would have gotten divorced. I thank God that they d= idn't.
 
My brother and I always seemed to be moving house a= nd school. By the time I reached high school I had been to 13 different sch= ools - way too many changes for any child.
 
I can remember= the Boys in Blue coming to our home to adjudicate the fights. I can rememb= er being called into the Principals office at Milsons Point Public School, = Nth Sydney when I was 10 with my eight year old brother. My mum was there, = along with a man from the Child Welfare Department. He informed us that we = were going to be put in a boys home because of our parents perilous relatio= nship. I began to cry. My brother began to cry because we didn't want to be= separated from our dad. Maybe this had happened before when we were much y= ounger but we were powerless to object. Twice before my mum had taken us to= 'visit our Granny' in Scotland. Two years is a long time to visit.
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Thank God our lungs were now well developed and we were able to v= oice our objections. After a couple of hours of crying they relented in the= ir intentions and allowed us to stay with Dad. That meant that we could see= Mum too when she came home for a few days every fortnight.
 
I am quite convinced that my brother and I might never have seen our Dad = again had we not protested so vehemently. These days, under the current ant= i-male family law and child welfare regime, I can guarantee we would never = have seen him again. Growing up is hard enough without having to cope with = family friction.
 
I think that the children of UK need to b= e listened to because they are echoing what children all over the world are= wanting to say if given the voice. And they are not the only ones. Bill Mu= ehlenberg in his incisive article in Quadrant, 'The War Against our Children' puts it this way:

Again, the social science data on this is as clear as it is overwhelmi= ng. Allow me to cite just two pieces of evidence. Bryan Rodgers of the Aust= ralian National University has been extensively studying how children suffe= r as a result of parental divorce. Says Rodgers:

"Australian stu= dies with adequate samples have shown parental divorce to be a risk factor = for a wide range of social and psychological problems in adolescence and ad= ulthood, including poor academic achievement, low self-esteem, psychologica= l distress, delinquency and recidivism, substance use and abuse, sexual pre= cocity, adult criminal offending, depression, and suicidal behaviour."
He concludes: "There is no scientific justification for disregarding the p= ublic health significance of marital dissolution in Australia, especially w= ith respect to mental health."
Professor David Popenoe of Rutgers Univ= ersity puts it this way: "In three decades of work as a social scientist, I= know of few other bodies of data in which the weight of evidence is so dec= isively on one side of the issue: on the whole, for children, two-parent fa= milies are preferable to single-parent families and step-families. If our p= revailing views on family structure hinged solely on scholarly evidence, th= e current debate would never have arisen in the first place."
What then is the answer? The people from Luton First have a penchant for= polls. The song title, 'All You Need is Love' by the Beatles was voted the= greatest words of all time. Maybe it's time to put those words into practi= ce.
 
Lovework
 
It is so easy to sing about love or even to talk about it. Eva= Burrow's words ring true, "In family life, love is the oil that eases fric= tion, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harm= ony." That sort of harmony requires effort but it is not beyond our reach.<= br /> 
Yours for more harmony
Warwick Marsh
 
P.S. International Marriage Week runs from = 7-14 February 2009, finishing on Valentine's Day. The best way to ban divor= ce is to prevent it. The best way to prevent it is to work hard at being a = great lover. Next week we aim to give you a few tips on how to keep the lov= e fire's burning. 
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Warwick Marsh  has been married=  to Alison for 33 years. He is the grandfather of two children an= d father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging in age from 28 y= ears to 16 years.  Warwick is a musician, songwriter, producer an= d public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himself.
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3D"Old Couple in their nineties are both having problems rememb= ering things. During a checkup, the doctor tells them that they're physical= ly okay, but they might want to start writing things down to help them reme= mber. Later that night, while watching TV, the old man gets up from his cha= ir. 'Want anything while I'm in the kitchen?' he asks.
'Will you get m= e a bowl of ice cream?'
'Sure.'
'Don't you think you should write= it down so you can remember it?' she asks.
'No, I can remember it.''Well, I'd like some strawberries on top, too. Maybe you should write i= t down, so's not to forget it?'
He says, 'I can remember that You want= a bowl of ice cream with strawberries.'
'I'd also like whipped cream.= I'm certain you'll forget that, write it down?' she asks.
Irritated, = he says, 'I don't need to write it down, I can remember it! Ice cream with = strawberries and whipped cream - I got it, for goodness sake!'
Then he= toddles into the kitchen. After about 20 minutes, The old man returns from= the kitchen and hands his wife a plate of bacon and eggs. She stares at th= e plate for a moment.
'Where's my toast?'
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Single Dads
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By Tony Miller=
 
Last weekend was my fathers 90th birthday; my son came up= from Sydney with my daughter. He is 34 now but in conversation more like a= n 18 year old. The H monkey is still firmly attached to his back. Alth= ough my father told me later that my son had come over, gave both he a= nd mum a hug and whispered in their ears "I've nearly beat it Nan and = pop, I've nearly beat it".
 
He didn't look as though he ha= d "beat it". He is a stick figure, gaunt and lifeless. The only realisation= that he is alive is the constant twitching of his body. He finds it hard t= o sit still and the constant pouring of beer down his throat was a queue th= at he was self medicating, trying to keep a lid on it, until the next hit.<= br /> 
We talked but not much, just general things. I didn't want= to bring up the big H issue, so never mentioned it. My eyes had already re= vealed that he had a taste that day. Maybe it was something else I told mys= elf, maybe it wasn't. Regardless the main thing was He was there! He made t= he effort and it was an extraordinary effort. He held his anger in which I = know and have witnessed is bottled inside this thin, gaunt looking shadow o= f his former self. I was proud of him.
 
I was once one of t= hose dads peering through the wire fence surrounding his son's school; I wa= s spotted and asked to move on. I explained who I was and that I just wante= d to catch a glimpse of my little boy who I hadn't seen for many years. I w= as taken to the principal's office and after explaining the circumstances w= as told that I was listed to have no contact. It was many years ago but I r= emember it as yesterday.
 
After breaking down in front of h= im, the principal took pity on me and let me peer through the blinds of his= office. He had to point him out to me because I, his father, couldn't reco= gnise my own son. I left quietly, humbly thanking him for his kindness and = in tears.
 
My boy grew up not knowing his dad and now I am = still peering through the fence unable to break through, only now it's not = wire, its heroin addiction.
 
During the mandatory speeches = my father got up and made his speech at the end. He spoke of many years ago= and of a couple who were very good friends he had known. He spoke of them = with much love and continued his story, as it turned out he said the w= oman gave birth to a son and not long after she died from the complications= of child birth and then not long after that the child's father also died i= n a car accident, leaving the child an orphan. That child we adopted, his n= ame is Tony and he is sitting right there he said pointing to me.
 
I was already emotional but even more so now. Earlier I had be= en asked if I wanted to make a speech, I declined - I was too emotional I r= ationalised. On the long drive back home the next day I regretted that= decision. I had written a speech in my head if given the opportu= nity, before I went down to the party. Now I had blown it, although as I th= ought about the words I would cry, so I doubt that I would have been able t= o say what I wanted to say without being a bit of a mess. Yet maybe I = should of anyway.
 
Anyway I have decided to write it here f= or all to read and send my dad a copy. Here it is:
 
Most of= you here know what I do for a living. I am the founder of a group called d= ads in distress and what we do is simply help blokes who are struggling wit= h life keep alive. It's often called suicide intervention although I call i= t mateship.
 
Just the other night prior to coming here I re= ceived a call from a bloke who was doing it tough. In fact I received a num= ber of calls from him leading into the early hours of the morning. This blo= ke had decided life was too tough and that it was time to call it a day. Ov= er the hours I eventually was able to talk this bloke down. Thank goodness = I had been given an opportunity to intervene. Towards the end of our l= ast call and with this bloke feeling in a better place he asked me how do I= do what I do. I thought about that question for a minute and then answered= him this, in which right now I would like to address to my father who is s= itting just over there.
 
Well mate you see I was lucky enou= gh to be given a good start in life and it was all due to one man, my dad. = There were 4 major things my dad taught me.
 
Empathy, Love and Compassion, and Faith.
 
My dad has his heart filled with all those things. I hav= e witnessed him in action, he has shown empathy and love and compassion to = many who can attest to that, but the biggest thing he gave me was Fait= h. Faith in God, Faith in others, Faith in myself and Faith that no matter = what I do, he will always be there, and he always has. Just as I am for you= , I told him, and just as you need to be there for your children. He sobbed= a little and thanked me profusely then hung up with a "Thanks Mate".
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After I hung up, I thought about you again Dad and how lucky in= life that I had you as my dad and I wanted to tell you this story and= say simply, "Thanks Mate" . . . And to let you know that because of w= hat you gave me and I am able to pass to others, you have sa= ved many lives . . .including mine. I love you mate . . .
 
=  As I drove back to Coffs Harbour the next day I thought a lot about t= he previous days events, about my dad, about my son, about all my kids and = about my life. Being a father especially a non-custodial father is a tough = call and often you don't get the opportunity to pass on life lessons, inste= ad they seem passed to you. I pulled into the driveway at home greeted by t= wo little smiling faces, cuddles and "Hi Dad". That hasn't happened to me i= n a long time and feels pretty strange, but I guess that's another story . = . .
 
 
The Rev.David B. Smith wrote in his recent= poignant article about the overdose of his daughter-The Pain of non-custod= ial fatherhood-
 
"Being a father doesn't necessarily mean = sitting alongside my girl in the same boat, doing all the rowing, but it do= es mean being somewhere in an adjoining boat, ready to dive in if I am need= ed.
Being a non-custodial father, I can't be in the same boat. My time= with my girl is a series of stolen moments-moments that seem to have been = growing shorter and less intimate over the last few years, as she makes her= transition towards adulthood."
 
How right he is . . .
Tony Miller
dads in distress
tmiller@nor.com.au
All You Nee= d is Love
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Daily tiffs may be= the key to a long and happy marriage.=20
Fiona McCade The Sunday Times (London) January 18, 2009
 When does arguing every day become the recipe for a happy marriage? Whe= n it keeps a couple together for 75 years, apparently. Francis and May Smit= h, Scotland's longest-married couple, have just celebrated three-quarters o= f a century of connubial bliss and they put the longevity of their relation= ship down to losing their tempers with each other on a daily basis - even a= rguing more now than they did as newly-weds. But they claim this means ther= e's never a dull moment and I believe them. Especially because Britain's lo= ngest-married couple - still in love after nearly 81 years - also cite havi= ng 'a small argument every day' as being integral to their success.
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This seems perfectly logical to me. Disagreement equals passionat= e communication. It clears the air. If your beloved is still leaving wet to= wels on the bathroom floor after 75 years, it's no good festering about it.= Get it out in the open, then kiss and make up.
 
Pick your = fights wisely, however. Just talking about the Smiths caused a completely p= ointless row in the McCade household. Instead of agreeing with me when I de= clared, "Arguing obviously helps a marriage", my husband irritatingly repli= ed: "I'm loath to disagree with you, because you hate being wrong." Which f= orced me to say:
 
"Of course I hate it if you say I'm wrong= when I'm right."
 
He asked: "Do you hate that more than ac= tually being wrong? Which is worse, being wrong, or being told you're wrong= when you're right?"
 
To which I replied: "Shut up, shut up= , shut up, you obnoxious git."
 
Seventy-five years. How the= hell have they managed it? Maybe the real secret to a good marriage is not= the arguing, but the method of reconciliation. The Smiths never let the su= n go down on a quarrel, but I bet Mr Smith has learnt that so long as he al= ways ends any blistering row with the words, "You're right, love, I'm sorry= ", all will be well. Husbands, take note.
 
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Editor's Note: Warwick Marsh does not agree with= arguing. I think he finds it very hurtful due to his upbringing. However, = disagreements in a marriage are inevitable. As Diane Sollee of Smartmarriag= es says: "It's not the disagreements, but how you handle them that matters.= And, you have to handle them, avoiding disagreements is not the answer." A= lison Marsh  
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Special Feature

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My name is Tony Palombi and yes, it's a good Italian name.= I was born in Adelaide to Italian migrants. My childhood was like the word= s of Winston Churchill when he said, "We shall fight on the beaches, we sha= ll fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the st= reets, we shall fight in the hills." It sounded exactly like my home growin= g up.
 
My mother was married to my father by arrangement by= their parents in Italy. My father was already in Australia finding work, s= o mum had the wedding service in Sezze, Italy. The service was in a Roman C= atholic Church with the family priest, an uncle who stood proxy, and all th= e family. They even had a reception afterwards. Then mum left Italy and set= tled in Australia in the 50's with her new husband.
 
Findin= g a home in Adelaide, They had a family quickly. Over the next 12 years of = marriage, mum gave birth to six children. Four girls, two boys, me being nu= mber 5. My brother was born legally blind, so this added to the challenge.<= br /> 
I'm not too sure of the reasons, but my father was violent= towards my mother. By the age of  3 years old I was seeing my mum get= ting beaten. Seeing and hearing them fighting all the time. She put up with= it for 12 years. He was ordered by the law to leave. He had a restraining = order put on him. He came back and almost like a last ditched effort, smash= ed all of our windows in the house, then it went quiet.
 
I = grew up waiting for the day for him to return. My older brother and I made = a decision to protect mum, so we even stored up rocks and stones and waited= , and waited. But he never returned.
 
I don't know what hur= t more, him attacking, or him not even showing up. Whatever the reasons, I = was rejected. I grew up hating my dad. I learnt about fathers by looking ov= er the fence.  Watching them play with their sons with new toys. My fr= iends would go away on holidays with their dads, and me, well I stayed home= .
 
We grew up poor, so I remembered neighbours helping us = out, sometimes food packages and people taking us to those annual Christmas= parties with Santa and fire engines. At the same time I grew up with a har= d working mum who loved us and  provided us with a good home, great It= alian cooking and friends around. It was as normal as could be.
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When I turned 11, my mother had to go overseas to Italy, so I  s= tayed at St Johns Boy's home for what was meant to be three months. I liked= it, so I when mum came back, I said I wanted to continue and stayed for 5 = years.  School never agreed with me so I dropped out when I was 16. I = took a job as a window cleaner and worked in the cleaning industry until 19= 91. Deep within me though, I knew I was a broken man. I was aware that my s= ocial life and work, family and friends could only satisfy  me so much= .
 
By the age of 28 I was sad &  miserable . You see, = my greatest desire in my life was to have a family. Children of my own and = to have a happy home. But my history scared me off, thinking that I would r= eflect my father and it wouldn't last.
 
I moved to Melbourn= e  and met my wife Annette. That's when things changed. I fell in love= and proposed. She said, Yes! And we married in July1991. Annette's father = was a minister and he talked with me about Jesus. I renewed my faith, gave = my life to Christ on March 11, 1991. I also gave him my past and my fears.<= br /> 
My biggest fear was the thought of becoming a father, espe= cially when I never had the experience of one. Another fear was that  = I would take on my dad's personality and I would walk the same path. Well, = good to say, none of those fears, as most things we fear, never eventuated.= I also let go of my anger towards my dad and forgave him.
 
Since being married, my wife and I have raised four children, who work wit= h us in the ministry. The ministry means, we help people in our community.<= br /> 
My kids have been given the gift of music, so we tour them= around to places and produce their music. It' a young band, and I always g= et a smile as I watch them , thinking of  the things that I was doing = when I was their age.
 
Today, as I write this article, my w= ife and I are passionate parents who want to do everything we can to help o= ther families. Currently we run programs in schools that help kids with gri= ef and loss as a result of separation, divorce or death. We get to talk wit= h kids and I can relate to their situations.  If you want to see more = of what we do, visit = www.godmadefamous.com 
 
Tony Palombi
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SCHOOL principals in New South Wales are handing out millions of dol= lars in "mercy payments" to financially-strapped families unable to meet so= aring education expenses.=20
 
 
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 Letters
 
Editors Note; The Editorial team at the Fatherhood Fo= undation have a policy to always look for the good in people. New USA Presi= dent Barak Obama would seem to be a very pro family man in many respects an= d for this we honour him. It is really sad to hear the news that Barack Oba= ma has just signed into law Overseas financial aid  to kill unborn chi= ldren. We share our readers deep concern about this tragic news.
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Dear Fatherhood Foundation
 
Regarding the letter to= his children featured in last week's newsletter. Good thing Obama decided = against aborting his daughters, unlike the abortion funding bill he just si= gned.
 
One wonders if his speechwriter wrote this too?
 
kind rgds
 
Steve 
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Dear Fatherhood Foundation
 
I just had to send this em= ail to you in response to the story you put in the newsletter about Barrack= Obama's letter to his two daughters.
 
Although what he sai= d was commendable, I just can't help but think it was not all that sincere.=
Many people see this man as some kind of Messiah or Rescuer and yet s= ome see him an Anti-Christ.  If one looks at many other things he has = said he will do and also the calibre of the people he has surrounded himsel= f with, then maybe the title of Anti-Christ would be more fitting.
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I can only see this man as being the last shot to be fired by the = radical feminists in the US at fathers and family in their quest to finally= see the nuclear family totally destroyed and the word 'father' stricken fr= om all forms of documentation and the social psyche.
 
Biden= is an enemy of fathers with his evil VAWA legislation, which has also seen= women who desperately need protection, abandoned by the govt.  The sa= me thing happens here in Australia with violence orders.  The vast maj= ority of orders are vexatious claims made by nasty ex wives/partners who ar= e only out to use the law to further their abuse against their husbands/par= tners.  Then the real female victims of domestic violence are left wit= hout any help at all, until they are finally put in hospital or God forbid = they are killed.  Domestic violence laws were deliberately put in plac= e to give divorcing women the upper hand in their quest for domination over= their ex.  There was never any intention that these laws would be of = any serious effect with regard protecting innocent women from a male or fem= ale abuser.
In fact, why is there no facility to protect men from evil= abusive women, when we know for a fact that women are much more abusive th= an men and kill many more men than men kill women?
 
Also so= me time ago Obama stated he would sign the freedom of choice legislation th= at would see wholesale abortions at any stage of pregnancy being made legal= and permitted throughout the US.  This will account for the murders o= f many millions of innocent children.  Yes, CHILDREN, not foetuses' li= ke the evil feminists and medical staff likes to call them.
We have th= e same evil being spread here in Australia now; where here in Vic they rece= ntly pushed through legislation to force doctors to refer women to abortion= doctors if they did not want to commit the murder themselves.  This o= f course is a direct attack on the Catholic Hospitals to force them to obey= their new One World masters/mistresses.
This will definitely spread t= hroughout the country and will eventually see the closing of Catholic Hospi= tals.
 
Obama is simply yet another Freemason puppet who is = there to do the bidding of the iluminati as they set about their quest for = world domination.  They are currently in the process of destroying the= US economy, so they can introduce their evil one world govt and then micro= chip every human on this earth.  Except for themselves and their famil= ies that is!
We are indeed living in the times of the Great Tribulatio= n and the destruction of the world as we know it is almost complete.
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The only positive thing we can look forward to is the fact that = all people born in this era are the luckiest in human history, because The = Lord has blessed all of us with so much and will instantly pardon all our s= ins for choosing to remain faithful to him, no matter what we have done.&nb= sp; If we choose to remain of the world and follow this one world govt, the= n we will surely suffer for eternity in hell.  However, when these evi= l people try to microchip us and if we refuse, we will then be taken to ext= ermination camps that have now been set up and completed in every country a= round the world, where we will be dealt with as the Jews were during the Ho= locaust.  But we will then be welcomed by God as Saints for remaining = faithful to Him.
 
Thankyou for giving me this opportunity t= o pass on my opinion on this issue!
 
 
Peter Greg= ory
grego= ry1@westnet.com.au

Dad's Prayer

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Dear God
 
It is so sad when Mum & Dad
just can't= get along anymore.
It is my fault? Why is this happening?
You bo= th loved me enough to make me!
Now you seem to want to unmake me!
If I was made by two, how can I be unmade?
 
Only God can h= eal my 'unmadeness'
As only He is the author of love.
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